Romantically Frustrated?
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Romantically frustrated?
I find it unsettling and awkward that I've lost most, if not all interest in relationships or the fruit it bears; regardless of gender.
so this one time, there was this chick in highschool that was obsessed with me...(I'm a dude) and I made it plain and clear to her that I wasn't interested. She kept trying to pursue to no avail, and I guess she held a grudge. Every girl I ever tried to get with in highschool mysteriously started hanging out with this girl that was obsessed with me.She became the biggest cockblock I've ever seen.. She would talk ***on me to any girl that I showed the slightest interest towards and make them think I wasn't worth it. After ruining something that could have been great, she would then turn around and try to get with me... This pretty much ruined any relationships I could have had in highschool and she still does ***like this to this day.
So I have no idea what to do about it ... Ive tried being mean to her (I've been quite the douchebag irl), if I could describe hatred in the best way I could, it would be my feelings towards her lol q.q ca choo
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Unicorn.Marrs said: Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Leviathan.Niniann said: I'm not bashing you Quetz, I'm just going to point out if a girl is saying "you don't love me" there's a decent chance you're either not giving her enough attention, or there's something else going on. Of course, she could just be completely insane, but I'd think even if that were the case *something* set her off. You don't just go out and accuse someone of not loving you with nothing to go off of. It was really difficult, because she had the kind of low self-esteem that felt almost crazy, and it made me feel powerless because I often felt like there was nothing I could do. I didn't know what would cheer her up. At the same time, it was the first time someone was actually interested in me...so I didn't have many relationship skills then. It could have been tons of factors, really. Just thinking back on it makes me so pessimistic about females that I'm practically convicing myself that I'll never have a chance in real life. :\ As for distance, when my ex fiance and I weren't living together we were stuck in Canada and the UK, 3000+ miles for months. So I can imagine lol > < zahrah said: Unicorn.Marrs said: i'll *especially* get flamed for posting in this thread. but as far as advice i can give about going up to someone and talking to them be them a girl (maybe it applies to guys?), (because face it, this is where people generally always have the problem, the approach aka bravery, i mean if all your past gf's are friends that you've talked to before and you've only ever gotten with them by expressing how you feel online, face it, thats kinda sad and dependant on your amount of friends, which is limited/finite), practice vie not flirting. just talk. get good at that, and move up from there. even if that means starting at something thats as small as a smile, or a passing by "hi" to someone thats simply just making eye contact. Don't try. I essentially said the same thing. Some people don't want to look at relationships as simplistic. Geez...In game? I thought we were talking about the real world. /sigh Online dating is diff from meeting someone in a video game. There needs to be a distinction there. That's not really a big difference is it? Only real difference I can see is one is intentionally looking for someone else, the other isn't. Unicorn.Marrs said: Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Leviathan.Niniann said: I'm not bashing you Quetz, I'm just going to point out if a girl is saying "you don't love me" there's a decent chance you're either not giving her enough attention, or there's something else going on. Of course, she could just be completely insane, but I'd think even if that were the case *something* set her off. You don't just go out and accuse someone of not loving you with nothing to go off of. It was really difficult, because she had the kind of low self-esteem that felt almost crazy, and it made me feel powerless because I often felt like there was nothing I could do. I didn't know what would cheer her up. At the same time, it was the first time someone was actually interested in me...so I didn't have many relationship skills then. It could have been tons of factors, really. Just thinking back on it makes me so pessimistic about females that I'm practically convicing myself that I'll never have a chance in real life. :\ As for distance, when my ex fiance and I weren't living together we were stuck in Canada and the UK, 3000+ miles for months. So I can imagine lol > < zahrah said: Unicorn.Marrs said: i'll *especially* get flamed for posting in this thread. but as far as advice i can give about going up to someone and talking to them be them a girl (maybe it applies to guys?), (because face it, this is where people generally always have the problem, the approach aka bravery, i mean if all your past gf's are friends that you've talked to before and you've only ever gotten with them by expressing how you feel online, face it, thats kinda sad and dependant on your amount of friends, which is limited/finite), practice vie not flirting. just talk. get good at that, and move up from there. even if that means starting at something thats as small as a smile, or a passing by "hi" to someone thats simply just making eye contact. Don't try. I essentially said the same thing. Some people don't want to look at relationships as simplistic. Geez...In game? I thought we were talking about the real world. /sigh Online dating is diff from meeting someone in a video game. There needs to be a distinction there. ^^^ Agreed!!! ^^^ I'm not trying to be offensive in any way, but I just can't see/do it. Unicorn.Marrs said: Online dating is diff from meeting someone in a video game. There needs to be a distinction there.
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Shiva.Kollosis said: so this one time, there was this chick in highschool that was obsessed with me...(I'm a dude) and I made it plain and clear to her that I wasn't interested. She kept trying to pursue to no avail, and I guess she held a grudge. Every girl I ever tried to get with in highschool mysteriously started hanging out with this girl that was obsessed with me.She became the biggest cockblock I've ever seen.. She would talk ***on me to any girl that I showed the slightest interest towards and make them think I wasn't worth it. After ruining something that could have been great, she would then turn around and try to get with me... This pretty much ruined any relationships I could have had in highschool and she still does ***like this to this day. So I have no idea what to do about it ... Ive tried being mean to her (I've been quite the douchebag irl), if I could describe hatred in the best way I could, it would be my feelings towards her lol q.q ca choo Leave a comment on her facebook saying something along the lines of: "No matter how much a *** you become, I still won't go out with you." xD
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Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Artemicion said: I find it unsettling and awkward that I've lost most, if not all interest in relationships or the fruit it bears; regardless of gender. It's been my disposition for over three years now. Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Unicorn.Marrs said: Online dating is diff from meeting someone in a video game. There needs to be a distinction there. I'd say yes. Because chances are (especially in a video game like this one) a guy will pretend to be a girl to get stuff. On an online dating site why would a guy pretend to be a girl? Hes going to meet her and she'll be a he, case closed, wasted time for both of them, as oppose to someone wasting their own time (a negative) they actually have motive to lie to you (get virtual stuff).
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zahrah said: Unicorn.Marrs said: Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Leviathan.Niniann said: I'm not bashing you Quetz, I'm just going to point out if a girl is saying "you don't love me" there's a decent chance you're either not giving her enough attention, or there's something else going on. Of course, she could just be completely insane, but I'd think even if that were the case *something* set her off. You don't just go out and accuse someone of not loving you with nothing to go off of. It was really difficult, because she had the kind of low self-esteem that felt almost crazy, and it made me feel powerless because I often felt like there was nothing I could do. I didn't know what would cheer her up. At the same time, it was the first time someone was actually interested in me...so I didn't have many relationship skills then. It could have been tons of factors, really. Just thinking back on it makes me so pessimistic about females that I'm practically convicing myself that I'll never have a chance in real life. :\ As for distance, when my ex fiance and I weren't living together we were stuck in Canada and the UK, 3000+ miles for months. So I can imagine lol > < zahrah said: Unicorn.Marrs said: i'll *especially* get flamed for posting in this thread. but as far as advice i can give about going up to someone and talking to them be them a girl (maybe it applies to guys?), (because face it, this is where people generally always have the problem, the approach aka bravery, i mean if all your past gf's are friends that you've talked to before and you've only ever gotten with them by expressing how you feel online, face it, thats kinda sad and dependant on your amount of friends, which is limited/finite), practice vie not flirting. just talk. get good at that, and move up from there. even if that means starting at something thats as small as a smile, or a passing by "hi" to someone thats simply just making eye contact. Don't try. I essentially said the same thing. Some people don't want to look at relationships as simplistic. Geez...In game? I thought we were talking about the real world. /sigh Online dating is diff from meeting someone in a video game. There needs to be a distinction there. ^^^ Agreed!!! ^^^ I'm not trying to be offensive in any way, but I just can't see/do it. Yea either am I. I'm not being insulting, I'm giving logical points for my arguments.
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Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Yeah that's part of why I didn't want to enable dwelling on it. you got this. Quote: Did you ever try talking to her and treating her like an equal? thinking in advance of the best way to say anything to consider her feelings and be gentle but sincere? Might take a lot of effort but I think it'd be worth trying if you're still stuck. And yeah there's a chance nothing you do will change her sadly > < hope that's not the case Anytime I act nice in anyway towards her she takes it as I'm being nice because I like her. She just doesn't get it. Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Artemicion said: Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Artemicion said: I find it unsettling and awkward that I've lost most, if not all interest in relationships or the fruit it bears; regardless of gender. It's been my disposition for over three years now. But does any part of you desire children or grandchildren? or going to sports games and band concerts to see your children? And if not, did you ever desire that kindof thing art? Generally no. But I have thought about it randomly in the past, but it generally isn't something that sticks to my thought process or inner desires enough to be considered a goal or objective. Perhaps I'm simply used to or have accepted being a loner lol. Shiva.Kollosis said: so this one time, there was this chick in highschool that was obsessed with me...(I'm a dude) and I made it plain and clear to her that I wasn't interested. She kept trying to pursue to no avail, and I guess she held a grudge. Every girl I ever tried to get with in highschool mysteriously started hanging out with this girl that was obsessed with me.She became the biggest cockblock I've ever seen.. She would talk ***on me to any girl that I showed the slightest interest towards and make them think I wasn't worth it. After ruining something that could have been great, she would then turn around and try to get with me... This pretty much ruined any relationships I could have had in highschool and she still does ***like this to this day. So I have no idea what to do about it ... Ive tried being mean to her (I've been quite the douchebag irl), if I could describe hatred in the best way I could, it would be my feelings towards her lol Move, lol. Just try to find different circles of people to hang with. q.q ca choo Unicorn.Marrs said: I'd say yes. Because chances are (especially in a video game like this one) a guy will pretend to be a girl to get stuff. On an online dating site why would a guy pretend to be a girl? Hes going to meet her and she'll be a he, case closed, wasted time for both of them, as oppose to someone wasting their own time (a negative) they actually have motive to lie to you (get virtual stuff). Also, You can't say there aren't cases where guys would pretend to be girls on online dating sites just to get attention either. And those guys are *** crazy. just about everything i was going to say in response to the original post has been said one way or another spread among other posts...i usually dont have a problem talking to girls but im naturally laid back and nice most of the time so when a girl that is taken or single(doesnt matter) thinks im coming on to her even though in my mind im just being myself it kind of upsets me
edit: sometimes it does piss me off too Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Unicorn.Marrs said: I'd say yes. Because chances are (especially in a video game like this one) a guy will pretend to be a girl to get stuff. On an online dating site why would a guy pretend to be a girl? Hes going to meet her and she'll be a he, case closed, wasted time for both of them, as oppose to someone wasting their own time (a negative) they actually have motive to lie to you (get virtual stuff). Also, You can't say there aren't cases where guys would pretend to be girls on online dating sites just to get attention either. And those guys are *** crazy. Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Unicorn.Marrs said: I'd say yes. Because chances are (especially in a video game like this one) a guy will pretend to be a girl to get stuff. On an online dating site why would a guy pretend to be a girl? Hes going to meet her and she'll be a he, case closed, wasted time for both of them, as oppose to someone wasting their own time (a negative) they actually have motive to lie to you (get virtual stuff). Also, You can't say there aren't cases where guys would pretend to be girls on online dating sites just to get attention either. And those guys are *** crazy. Why would a guy want attention....and as a girl...that doesn't even....I've heard of girls not using pics that are theirs but never a full on sex difference. Chances are a bazillion times less but I suppose its technically "possible". Pics or whatever are a terrible point again for a video game, a person in a video game has a motive again to find fake pics, just as much as they would to give their char a diff sex then their own, so any type of identity confirmation after you've already found them vie the game is kind of pointless.
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Unicorn.Marrs said: zahrah said: Unicorn.Marrs said: Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Bismarck.Josiahfk said: Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Leviathan.Niniann said: I'm not bashing you Quetz, I'm just going to point out if a girl is saying "you don't love me" there's a decent chance you're either not giving her enough attention, or there's something else going on. Of course, she could just be completely insane, but I'd think even if that were the case *something* set her off. You don't just go out and accuse someone of not loving you with nothing to go off of. It was really difficult, because she had the kind of low self-esteem that felt almost crazy, and it made me feel powerless because I often felt like there was nothing I could do. I didn't know what would cheer her up. At the same time, it was the first time someone was actually interested in me...so I didn't have many relationship skills then. It could have been tons of factors, really. Just thinking back on it makes me so pessimistic about females that I'm practically convicing myself that I'll never have a chance in real life. :\ As for distance, when my ex fiance and I weren't living together we were stuck in Canada and the UK, 3000+ miles for months. So I can imagine lol > < zahrah said: Unicorn.Marrs said: i'll *especially* get flamed for posting in this thread. but as far as advice i can give about going up to someone and talking to them be them a girl (maybe it applies to guys?), (because face it, this is where people generally always have the problem, the approach aka bravery, i mean if all your past gf's are friends that you've talked to before and you've only ever gotten with them by expressing how you feel online, face it, thats kinda sad and dependant on your amount of friends, which is limited/finite), practice vie not flirting. just talk. get good at that, and move up from there. even if that means starting at something thats as small as a smile, or a passing by "hi" to someone thats simply just making eye contact. Don't try. I essentially said the same thing. Some people don't want to look at relationships as simplistic. Geez...In game? I thought we were talking about the real world. /sigh Online dating is diff from meeting someone in a video game. There needs to be a distinction there. ^^^ Agreed!!! ^^^ I'm not trying to be offensive in any way, but I just can't see/do it. Yea either am I. I'm not being insulting, I'm giving logical points for my arguments. I know you are not. I'm just trying to redeem myself a little because my first post does some off as condescending and superior. Anyway, maybe it's just me, but I don't understand. Relationships are not suppose to be about stress. Finding one, holding on to one, or being in one. If so, you need to reevaluate. i knew a few people in game who acted like girls. to go as far as jumping from guy to guy getting stuff for free was a bit obnoxious imo but hey its just a fantasy world in game anyways
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The situational irony in this song makes this quite appealing to me for some reason. Well there is going to always be some stress in a relationship. Two different people who are trying to be together. I guess if there is more joy, keep her. If not, reevaluate the relationship. Fix it or move on. Things sure can be tough sometimes.
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Unicorn.Marrs said: Leviathan.Quetzacoatl said: Unicorn.Marrs said: I'd say yes. Because chances are (especially in a video game like this one) a guy will pretend to be a girl to get stuff. On an online dating site why would a guy pretend to be a girl? Hes going to meet her and she'll be a he, case closed, wasted time for both of them, as oppose to someone wasting their own time (a negative) they actually have motive to lie to you (get virtual stuff). Also, You can't say there aren't cases where guys would pretend to be girls on online dating sites just to get attention either. And those guys are *** crazy. Why would a guy want attention....and as a girl...that doesn't even....I've heard of girls not using pics that are theirs but never a full on sex difference. Chances are a bazillion times less but I suppose its technically "possible". Pics or whatever are a terrible point again for a video game, a person in a video game has a motive again to find fake pics, just as much as they would to give their char a diff sex then their own, so any type of identity confirmation after you've already found them vie the game is kind of pointless. Plus, I think at this point, the whole guy-playing-girl-character stereotype has honestly tired itself to the point where people are starting to not wanting to pretend to be a female because of the backlash it could give them. YEEEEAAAAY!!!!! Now the fun starts! Hello, Spicy!
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