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By Quetzacoatl 2017-01-22 11:37:47
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So uh, I go to work, come home, do adult ***, play game or do hobbies, go to bed. If it's a day off, I either stay home (which is 90% of the time) or go visit one of my homeboys in a town I used to live in. That's basically my life in a nutshell right now.

Soon it will be my birthday, which is nice...but guess what comes exactly a week after, though. ._.
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By Josiahkf 2017-01-22 11:57:02
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Quetzacoatl said: »
So uh, I go to work, come home, do adult ***, play game or do hobbies, go to bed. If it's a day off, I either stay home (which is 90% of the time) or go visit one of my homeboys in a town I used to live in. That's basically my life in a nutshell right now.

Soon it will be my birthday, which is nice...but guess what comes exactly a week after, though. ._.
Are you getting pretty lonely?
Or moreso just feel like there is an emptiness etc
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By Quetzacoatl 2017-01-22 18:36:30
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Quetzacoatl said: »
So uh, I go to work, come home, do adult ***, play game or do hobbies, go to bed. If it's a day off, I either stay home (which is 90% of the time) or go visit one of my homeboys in a town I used to live in. That's basically my life in a nutshell right now.

Soon it will be my birthday, which is nice...but guess what comes exactly a week after, though. ._.
Are you getting pretty lonely?
Or moreso just feel like there is an emptiness etc
Might be a mix of both. I just keep myself focused on the present at all costs so that it doesn't try to sneak up on me.

Plus, I live in a city that's been ranked as one of the worst for dating opportunities. It's a city within the rust belt, too.
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By Josiahkf 2017-01-22 18:38:03
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So uh, I go to work, come home, do adult ***, play game or do hobbies, go to bed. If it's a day off, I either stay home (which is 90% of the time) or go visit one of my homeboys in a town I used to live in. That's basically my life in a nutshell right now.

Soon it will be my birthday, which is nice...but guess what comes exactly a week after, though. ._.
Are you getting pretty lonely?
Or moreso just feel like there is an emptiness etc
Might be a mix of both. I just keep myself focused on the present at all costs so that it doesn't try to sneak up on me.

Plus, I live in a city that's been ranked as one of the worst for dating opportunities. It's a city within the rust belt, too.
yeah I feel ya. You saving up for future freedoms atm or anything long term planning wise? maybe there is some kind of goal setting that might help.
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By Quetzacoatl 2017-01-22 19:25:08
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So uh, I go to work, come home, do adult ***, play game or do hobbies, go to bed. If it's a day off, I either stay home (which is 90% of the time) or go visit one of my homeboys in a town I used to live in. That's basically my life in a nutshell right now.

Soon it will be my birthday, which is nice...but guess what comes exactly a week after, though. ._.
Are you getting pretty lonely?
Or moreso just feel like there is an emptiness etc
Might be a mix of both. I just keep myself focused on the present at all costs so that it doesn't try to sneak up on me.

Plus, I live in a city that's been ranked as one of the worst for dating opportunities. It's a city within the rust belt, too.
yeah I feel ya. You saving up for future freedoms atm or anything long term planning wise? maybe there is some kind of goal setting that might help.

Well, I usually have to put in $500/month (except december) for an IRA I got set up for, and...it's both a blessing and a curse. It's retirement, but with my current job, which has varied hours on what seems like a random work week, I'm more or less breaking even. Not only would the idea of finding a second job be a pain in the ***, but coordinating schedules would be an utter nightmare for me.

But according to my mother, I'm supposedly going to be getting some additional financial support- either through disability or...a personal instance I'd like to keep private for the time being. So right now, Goals are practically stifled until a good opportunity comes along.
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By Josiahkf 2017-01-23 12:46:44
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How many years until retirement?
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By fonewear 2017-01-25 11:11:44
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Why am I just learning about this thread ?
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By Asura.Kingnobody 2017-01-25 13:35:57
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We specifically kept you out of this thread because, knowing you, you would be topic banned quicker than you can say "boo...."

DAMN IT KOJO, AT LEAST WAIT UNTIL I FINISH TYPING THIS BEFORE YOU TOPIC BAN HIM!!!
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By Asura.Saevel 2017-01-25 13:49:54
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Met a woman in FFXIV back in last January. Been friends since, met her in person for lunch. Didn't feel like anything clicked, but she's attractive and easy to get along with. She's just hot and cold towards me. Sometimes she won't respond to messages at all, and then other times she wants to do everything with me. I'll see where it goes, though it doesn't seem like it's going anywhere.

I know quite a number of other women that I'm incredibly drawn towards, but the rub is generally that they are already happily taken. Idk, sometimes it feels like the whole relationship/romance thing just isn't something I'm going to excel at. Just general guy frustrations I guess. Nothing entertaining like Schizm.

And sorry to hear that Volkom T_T

Oh tbis one's easy. You are her backup-boyfriend or plan-B. If whomever she is seeing gives her problems she rings one of her backups to feel valuable and attractive. She's not interested in a relationship with you but the easy validation is always welcome.
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By Josiahkf 2017-01-25 19:21:02
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You are an extremely affirming and complimentary person when you're happy or interested in someone Vyre, could just be needy people being drawn to your positivity. So of course people like me who emotionally distant the self from that kind of behaviour are never around long and the needy people keep that mindset close.

Are you game for a long distance relationship in theory? Or done with that world?
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By Quetzacoatl 2017-01-28 16:47:24
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Josiahkf said: »
How many years until retirement?
Maybe in the next 35 years. Longer if the current government decides to raise the retirement age. >_>
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By Bismarck.Josiahfk 2017-01-28 20:27:52
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Please don't feel shy chanti. No topic or problem is too small here, we got ya judgement-free.

No responding with silliness from me like some other threads.
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By Bismarck.Josiahfk 2017-01-30 13:55:00
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Quetzacoatl said: »
Josiahkf said: »
How many years until retirement?
Maybe in the next 35 years. Longer if the current government decides to raise the retirement age. >_>
Yeah I wouldn't be surprised seeing as the retirement ages were planned systemically to be affordable on a society when humanity had a much shorter lifespan.
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By Phoenix.Sehachan 2017-11-08 05:29:55
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Do you think there is only one "love of your life", that every person only gets one shot at that big love? I'm not asking if it's possible to fall in love again, obviously it is, but if one can love again someone with the same intensity as that deep love eventually; or if all others will never compare to it and will always be inferior.
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By Garuda.Chanti 2017-11-08 10:20:19
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There have been many deep, intense loves in my life. So no Seha, I couldn't come close to thinking that.
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By clearlyamule 2017-11-08 10:27:55
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I think it's a matter of attitude. You can if you deep down want to or at least are willing to since logically it's quite possible to find someone better especially since they get bonus points for actually being there... but emotions care less about surface reason and more about deeply held beliefs, assumptions, and expectations
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By Boshi 2017-11-08 14:45:03
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Phoenix.Sehachan said: »
Do you think there is only one "love of your life", that every person only gets one shot at that big love? I'm not asking if it's possible to fall in love again, obviously it is, but if one can love again someone with the same intensity as that deep love eventually; or if all others will never compare to it and will always be inferior.
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By Josiahkf 2017-11-08 14:59:37
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Phoenix.Sehachan said: »
Do you think there is only one "love of your life", that every person only gets one shot at that big love? I'm not asking if it's possible to fall in love again, obviously it is, but if one can love again someone with the same intensity as that deep love eventually; or if all others will never compare to it and will always be inferior.
I think our capacity for love grows and grows as we grow as a person, so one might believe they are in love with a soulmate today but end up experiencing a whole new plateau of love 5-10 years down the line with someone else whom they never could have felt that deeply and profoundly about if they hadn’t grown with the initial person.

There is no single “love of our lives,” there is just amazingly kindred spirits we can have profound connections with as best friends or lovers or more. For example I’m unconditionally giving one woman every day of my life until I die, but if she dies first (despite I know I’ll Never look for love again) it doesn’t mean I won’t fall in love all over again with someone else by chance and embrace the rare connection while I get to experience it etc
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By Anna Ruthven 2017-11-08 15:15:21
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Just don't take an interest in someone who wants to start love triangles and use two possible lovers to torment each other for their own amusement. That kinda sucks.

Especially when you have mutual friends so you keep seeing each other.
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By Bismarck.Josiahfk 2017-11-08 15:34:37
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Anna Ruthven said: »
Just don't take an interest in someone who wants to start love triangles and use two possible lovers to torment each other for their own amusement. That kinda sucks.

Especially when you have mutual friends so you keep seeing each other.
Love truangles are very difficult to maintain healthily yeah and are not for the majority, but either way that’s hard advise to follow since I think most of them are surprise sprung upon individuals that have already moved past the bolded.
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By Candlejack 2017-11-08 17:26:36
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Do like I do: Find a nice fence post and settle down with it.
Also, I note that my sober problem still persists.
Pic related, it's the fence post I'm currently roaming around with. She's gorgeous. Look at those lines, man.
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By Garuda.Chanti 2017-11-08 19:44:33
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Just don't take an interest in someone who wants to start love triangles and use two possible lovers to torment each other for their own amusement. That kinda sucks.

Especially when you have mutual friends so you keep seeing each other.
I have always been poly. I have always been open about it. I don't do conflict. I never ask for faithful, it can't be part of what I ask for as I cannot be.

Triangles? I spent decades with 3 or 4 ongoing, deep, wonderful, meaningful, relationships at once.
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By Anna Ruthven 2017-11-08 20:05:02
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Garuda.Chanti said: »
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Just don't take an interest in someone who wants to start love triangles and use two possible lovers to torment each other for their own amusement. That kinda sucks.

Especially when you have mutual friends so you keep seeing each other.
I have always been poly. I have always been open about it. I don't do conflict. I never ask for faithful, it can't be part of what I ask for as I cannot be.

Triangles? I spent decades with 3 or 4 ongoing, deep, wonderful, meaningful, relationships at once.
That's just not me. This person I speak of wasn't exactly poly, just loves drama.
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By Candlejack 2017-11-09 14:37:21
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Right now, my sober problem isn't a problem. I have enough Dr. Beam in me to drop a rhino.
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By Josiahkf 2017-11-09 15:49:45
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Candlejack said: »
Do like I do: Find a nice fence post and settle down with it.
Also, I note that my sober problem still persists.
Pic related, it's the fence post I'm currently roaming around with. She's gorgeous. Look at those lines, man.
I’m not here to judge. What you fit inside your orifices is none of my concern.
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By clearlyamule 2017-11-10 10:45:13
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Anna Ruthven said: »
Just don't take an interest in someone who wants to start love triangles and use two possible lovers to torment each other for their own amusement. That kinda sucks.

Especially when you have mutual friends so you keep seeing each other.
It sucks to be a part of but is amazing to watch from the outside
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By Anna Ruthven 2017-11-10 10:59:45
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clearlyamule said: »
Anna Ruthven said: »
Just don't take an interest in someone who wants to start love triangles and use two possible lovers to torment each other for their own amusement. That kinda sucks.

Especially when you have mutual friends so you keep seeing each other.
It sucks to be a part of but is amazing to watch from the outside
Especially when you're watching the same girl do all that crap to someone else who sat and watched as she did it to you.

Yeah, pretty amusing. Lol
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By Bismarck.Josiahfk 2017-11-20 15:23:33
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Thankfully I don’t do that love triangle stuff anymore and since I am a very emotional based critter, I don’t handle it well anyway.

I was more foolish in my youth and fell in love with a married woman and she with me; It got to the point where the husband realized he *** up and gave us his blessing even because he wanted her happy, and I became friends with her children and we became an official couple.

Somehow We’re good friends about it years later thankfully, and all of us have found our own happiness again.
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