Romantically Frustrated?

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I'm not particularly frustrated. But I think my girlfriend might be.

We've been together for a little over a month. She's 12 years younger than me (the fact that that's even legal makes me feel ancient).

But yeah, she wants to have sex all the time, just as I wanted when I was her age. I don't know why, but I'm really not that intrested. It's not that she don't look good (Aly knows that), it's just that I'm working all day and I'm *** exhausted when I get home. Once I finally go to bed, all I can think of is sleeping. Aparently when you're 20, all you can think about is sex.

She's getting really frustrated with me.

Get a g/f that wants sex as much as you?

You mean I should replace a g/f I actually like, with someone else just because my current one likes sex alot?

Frankly I can't see any relationship lasting if one person's sexual needs are far below that of the other's.

Sometimes ya just gotta take one for the team. There have been times that I was dead tired, but I could tell my wife was in the mood, so I just bucked up and did my best anyway; I know she's done the same for me, and probably a lot more often, lol.

In a relationship, sex should be less about satisfying your own needs and more about satisfying your partner's. When both people have that attitude, you'll have a much better sex-life, in my experience.

Well the relationship is still young, I dont think there's a real problem really yet. But she's probably frustrated.

On the other hand, you guys really think that one part in a relationship should just "put out" because the other part wants?

I know that I wouldn't like it if I knew my g/f just "put out" just because I wanted to. Where's the fun in that?

I made a free profile on Xprofiles.com with hardly any information about me and yet theres tons of people messaging me wanting me to go out with them; But I can't justify paying to be a full member on that site and yeah, the website is more focused on sex and there is a lot of explicit material. But iono it might be an option if you're looking to meet someone fast and locally.

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If it comes to the stage where that becomes an issue, that is a problem. Sexual fulfillment is a great part of a relationship and if that need isn't met, the relationship as a whole is incomplete.

Is this a respons to me? Or should I forward that to my g/f when I'm not up for it? lol

I mean if your only a month in and she's becoming increasingly frustrated with your sex life (unless she wants less soon or you want more soon) doesn't seem like it will last... Or find a compromise?

I wouldn't trust a site like that farther than I could throw a 2 ton ball.... Maybe I'm just a skeptic but yeah....

Could be that the thought of it at the time isn't what they want but when you actually get into it then its exactly what you want!
Could just mean that its something that they need so as a loving mate you try to fufill the desire even if it isn't yours atm...

I see your point. But should a relationship really be build on sex (in that way)?

Now obviously I can't say I love her already. But let's say this goes on for another 6 months or so, and me and her actually feel that we love each other. Isn't there more impoartant things than sex to look at?

Everyone is always going on about "it's the inside that counts" and ***like that. Ofc there's the compromise, but as far as I know, a compromise rarely makes 2 people happy. At most, it makes 2 people a bit less unhappy.

For the sake of the argument now, lets say it's 6 months away from now and her and I really love each other (for other qualities than sex). Would that relationship really be doomed because she wants more than I do (or for the sake of the argument, I want more than she wants)?

Is this where cheating comes in? Would a person cheat on someone they truely love because they don't get enough sex? Or can you really love someone if you're cheating on them?

It's not just that you put out. It's more like you try to change your attitude about it. You want her to be happy, so you try to muster up the energy and motivation to facilitate that. Which means, not just having sex with her, but making it worth her while too.

That's just my opinion, though. I'm of the mindset that relationships function best when both partners place their needs and wants as secondary. That way your needs are met through the generosity of your partner and vice versa. Ideally it creates a codependency that helps to strengthen the bond past just "liking" each other for selfish reasons.

Again, that's just me. A lot of people think that's kinda crazy and idealistic.

Yeah, but wouldn't you "feel" it if your g/f or b/f (sorry, dont know if you're a guy or a girl or straight or gay), did it because you wanted, and not because he/she/it really felt like it?

Yeah, maybe... It depends I guess.

It's a two-way street, though. There have been times I've sexed when I didn't feel like it and there have also been times I didn't bother to try when I did feel like it, because I could tell she wasn't in the mood and didn't want to pressure her (I'm a straight guy, btw).

Too often we treat our mood and feelings as absolutes (especially regarding sex), when really they're just products of our own minds that we can change with the correct willpower.

In some cases yes and in some cases no.... Its really a case by case basis. Sex is just a part of the relationship... one that is important in some and not as important in others... All I'm saying is that it seems pretty important to her from what little I know and less important to you... You could give it time and see if she's realy in in for the long term... Honestly I just know too little about the people or the situation to give any worthwhile advice but when someone is unfufilled in a relationship it leads to tension and then you have to see what else you have and if its strong enough to hold the rest of it together.

As for compormise its a necessity.. at least in long term relationships... no two people are alike and they are always bound to butt heads about somehting... need to give in on some things and the other does as well or at lest meet halfway...

I know there has been plenty of times when I haven't felt like doing or wanted to do something and then I go out and do it and have the time of my life...

wow...

Yeah, that's basically what I'm getting at. Some of the best sex I've had started with me not even in the mood.

edit: inb4 rape joke >.>