FFXI LGBT Community, Who Are You?

hey ^^ni ni :D

intsalled win XP back XD
something wrong with Win7 >_>
but i like 7 soo much booo

morning all!

Good Morning to you too and everyone else here^^.

At work today....hate working sundays but meh, again its work. Watched The Butch Factor along with Fantastic Mr.Fox last night. The movie was good and the doctumentary was good too. The Butch Factor i highly recommend you see guys and gals. Very informative about gay mascilinity and how it is precevied by today's social standards.

Salutations folkses. How is yall is doing?

Today is a day to do a lot of schoolwork for me. It's time for that end of semester rush. :/

On a brighter note. Another Dynamis - X, another chance for thf gloves.

Morning, everyone.

Nothing like waking up and having your room be 40 degrees...

Good luck on the Dyna run, Twin. It's awesome to be able to send a tell to a person and ask, "TH4. (Do you need it?)

(Hmm.) Ever wonder why it's (Do you NEED it?) rather than (Do you WANT it?)

G'morning everyone.
What's going on today?

I'm looking forward to it. The only thief we have in my sky/limbus link with TH4 is a total retard. They're already making their plans for turning me into the TH4 ***. I'm also looking forward to using that little bit to get me some Nyzul gear. XD

I'm also gonna be picking up goldsmithing soon, too. So I could use the farming aid. XD

Does anyone here know what grindr is?

I'd much rather be a TH *** than a "Buff. Wait 1. Buff. Wait 5. Buff. Wait 1. Buff. Wait 5" ***.


In terms of food?

No, never mind. I'm facing a huge ordeal right now and I'm freaking out trying to figure out what to do.

Oh so very true. Basically I just do oddjobs in that LS right now. Whatever we don't have is what I do.

What would you do if you found out your bf/gf/partner whatever was using a hookup site?

I'd be slightly concerned. I'd try not to jump to conclusions, but ask about it. I hope everything's ok.

I did, and hes first off, tried to lie and say its not a hook up site, when it is. I read an article about it when it first came out in details and looked it up again this morning. And hes just "talking" to these people there.

Why would you need to use a hook up site to "talk" to people?

True...

Ask them to three way! *cough* In all seriousness I'm not sure. If you have a sex life ask them if it's fulfilling, and if it isn't ask them what needs to change. If you're too young for something like that, then maybe it's time you considered proceeding with caution, or ending the relationship if that makes you feel uncomfortable/immoral/whatever.

Basically what I'm saying is you need to discuss things with the person first. Communication is the foundation of any good relationship.

Hope that helps and good morning everyone.

well
you cant stop him talk with ppl or friends or whatever and

i always ask first..
always...
i know its stupid.. but well if you are not hiding something why dint you just tell me... and yeah if he use some hookup site just for talks .. its fine .. im not some kind of monster ..

i had i bad experiment with a guy.. and hookup site .. he tell me he need go out and meet someone for a bisuness or something lol but he was on date... and when i ask him one day.. so and what are we gonna do?
he said - i dunno .. well fuc**ff then bye bye

second experiment was with guy he used this kind if sites too
and i asked him.. so what are we gonna do with that?
he just give me login and pass
i dint checked but he said there too many old gays-friends and they just blabing


and sorry for my english ._.

To give you some background about myself - my partner and I have been together for 5 1/2 years. We actually met via a hookup site about 4 years before we even got together. He ended up "seeing" a friend of mine and we continued to talk - via chat, im, etc. After a while, we decided that we would hang out b/c we had a great friendship and then we started to date.
At that time, neither of us were dating or talking to anyone else - so there was no issues.

To this day, we both use various hookup sites to talk to people and make friends. We don't really go out much and don't like the "scene". I let people know upfront that I have a husband and sometimes you get people who don't want to talk to you or you get the people asking for the threesome.

One thing that we do is to keep our communication open and honest. Ask him about it and let him know that it is okay for him to use grindr (i use encountr) for chatting with new people, but that you want to make sure that its just for friendship. Ask him if he would be upset if you were to use sites such as adam4adam or manhunt as a way to make new friends...

I've had this happen before. My partner and I have been together for 7 years. I asked him about it and he said he was just looking to see if there was anyone we knew that was on there that we didn't know were gay.

This is entirely believable if you knew him, he's the kind of person to snoop on what the neighbors are doing outside, but I love him anyway. I told him I was uncomfortable with him going to these sites, and he hasn't since(and yes I know for sure because both of our PCs are next to eachother as we game together and I have check all manner of histories on it).

Just be open and honest and make sure your bf/gf/partner knows you expect the same from them.

-*edit-* On a side note I have told my partner that if we can't be honest with eachother then we couldn't be together. So he knows what's at stake if he lies to me.: Too many bad relationships prior to this one that ended in either cheating or lieing.

And now for a brief interlude: Something I came across on Pandora while working on my schoolwork just a few moments ago.

Oh, I like that. :)

By the way, welcome, Lefiont~

Well, everyone else has covered the grounds for what to do.
All I can add is: Be open to what he has to say, be sure to ask if there is something about your relationship that is bothering him/her, See if there is any compromise that can be made (you two can talk whether he really NEEDS that type of site to talk with frieds. There are always many online chat programs to make sure there is communication between people. But all in all, be sure you are calm when you two communicate. Going into a frenzy about things may cause you to doing things you may regret.

(hope this helps)

Noted! x3

I'm so bored. Anything sound fun?

I kinda wanna work on my Dagger Trial, but I told Taru we'd do it together. I'll have to wait for him to log on.

Thanks for the welcome!

I was trying to solo on blu and died LO I decided to log i'm tired from working this weekend anyway.