Don't Look Back In Anger (the Last 3 Years)

So, I haven't been visible too much the past few years but I have been stopping in almost daily. I'm sure some of you are fine with this. Either way, Vyre has been carrying the weight and I'm grateful for that.

I'm not feeling well, uncomfortable at the moment, and facing surgery for things no one wants to hear about and I feel like sharing a little bit. No, this isn't a resignation post.

A little over three years ago, during a job search, my sister talked me into getting a job with her at Walmart. We worked as overnight stockers and for awhile I loved it, I made friends with my first team lead and enjoyed talking to her and annoying the ***out of her but as all good things do, this came to an end about a year in when she transferred to start moving up at a store with more possibilities. Obviously I'm happy for her and proud of her but with her departure, my interest in overnights dropped off completely.

In the following year, in what time I did get with my family, it was decided that I would inherit the family home and now I am the caretaker of my parents who I didn't even get to see very much, I started trying to leave overnights, this drags on for a year all while I felt more trapped and desperate, separated from family, eventually my TL was replaced and that TL moved to days and asked me to follow, I was holding out for another department until one night.

That morning I got home after work and found my mom having a stroke, as soon as the ambulance took her I had to go to bed to be at work that night, when I got to work, I called my mom and she was still slurring her words, I didn't know if my mom was coming home the way she left. That night was a bad one, everything piling up on me and all it took was one TL yelling at me and something snapped. Everyone else went on break, I went to the freezer to have an emotional breakdown and plan my own death. I eventually snapped out of it and made a decision; "tomorrow I will get my ticket to days, or I will quit."

Our store manager has his faults, but when I went to meet with him, he actually greeted me with "you still want to come to days? I'm pretty sure we can find a spot." So I ended up in grocery, working with my TL who asked to to join her when she left nights.

Recently, I decided to be my TL's counterpart and I put in for the grocery TL spot, opposite her since I fill in for the TLs anyway. I earned that spot, I busted my *** for it, but when it came down to me being the only viable option, they brought a guy from another store in and interviewed him after the interviews were done and gave it to him.

For the longest time I was mad about how I was treated on overnights and I blamed that TL and our Coach (salaried manager) I have been so mad over not getting the position, and I'm tired of it. This may sound stupid but I remember hearing Oasis' Don't Look Back in Anger and I had to ask "why the *** are you mad?" I can't keep holding onto that ***, so I've let it go.

Moving to days was a gamble that I lost. I gave up a $1.50 shift differential because I planned to promote. I recently got in contact with my first TL, she's a coach at her store now and I plan to transfer and work with her, either transferring into a promotion or transferring to work my way towards it.

Not sure why I decided to write all this out but I felt like I needed to get it out of my head. Thanks for reading if you made it this far!

- Kojo, AKA Anna "Rageboner" Ruthven

Well, during my younger years I was kinda the anti-marxist person: I always thought that being a worker is a virtue, my generation grow up thinking a proper life was one who is hired early and retire in the same job without any finantial worries, married with kids and good home.

But the last couple of years, I started to understand partially some of Marx sayings: the work degenerates the man. All of that drean of a "perfect life" started to feel so small to me.

Why am I bowing my head to an idiot person? Only because someone said he is my boss? In the street, I wouldnt give that guy a second of my time, but inside my work Im obliged to follow his every command.

Why am I reading about the companies values? Visions and missions? Why am I reading about their compliance standards? Why do I need to consider a company ideals likee mine?

And I consider my company a incredible good place to work. The payment is above average. The pressure is near non existent. The hierarchy is pretty much from younger people so they arent as petty as someone really old.

Still, I think it is too small to me. I dont want to spend my life bowing my head to someonee else. I dont want to let a company decide what I want to do. I want to be my own boss and have my own business.

But for that, what is necessary is a plan. And that is probably the only helpful advice I can give: current life is ***. Our current society forces you to be subjulgated just to have the bare minimum to survive.

But only you can do something to make your life even slightly better.

But for that, you need a plan. And execute it the best you can.

So if life is too hard, or too cruel, just use your anger, your sadness to devise your perfect plan, that will lead to you happy life. Dont meekly accept society opression. Have the last word in your life, only you care about your own life so it entirely up to you to make the best out of it.

Besides the stroke part, something very similar happened to a friend who went from nights to days at Home Depot. He too, got screwed after something was promised.

I’m sorry. That sucks. I hope the best for you and your family. Have a plan on how to cope with mental health breakdowns. It helps.

But what you need isn't anger, it's ambition.

I've seen countless people who quit jobs to start their business because they don't like their boss and they want money and freedom. And most of them failed.

Because starting a business is several times harder and less "free" than being an employee. Every people problem you hate at job, you deal with it 10 times more when you run a business.

Sometimes you need to bow your head to needy client/customers/investors and even government. Sometimes you deal with competitors launching PR/law attack against you. Hell, sometimes you bow your head to your needy employees too.

When those angry people who's only drive is anger, at one point they couldn't take it anymore and they go back to the workplace.

Those who stayed in the field of business and become successful for a long time, generally are the ones with a much bigger ambition than anger.

"I want to cook the best food and make my customers happy"

"I want to create the best solution for my clients"

"I want to invent a product that changed human life"

"I want to create colony on Mars and save humanity (Aka Elon Musk)"

This kind of ambition is what makes successful business person keep going. Because at that point bow down to people you don't like means nothing, it's tolerable because it means path for a even greater goal.

Dont try to derail serious topics.

If you have something to say, say it to the OP.

You derailed first!

Anna, I would hug you but the interwebs are in the way. Consider yourself hugged.

Panta, I figured that out at 16. I was a precocious child.

Afania, You merit a topic ban.

can't relate to the specifics but can definitely relate to using places like this to vent and organize my thoughts. always good to be reminded that we share a common interest but come from all over with wildly different situations. hope you find some relief and clarity if that is what you want!

First time posting (i think?) i just quit my job at walmart after 16 years. very similar situation. F that place.

Nah. Lol

I almost quit lol, I need the insurance atm tho. I find it's not all bad, just gotta find the people and the mindset to make it worth it to whatever extent you can.