Thanks everyone for taking the time to look at my post and contributing to the discussion.
I'm reading through every comment closely.
I also want to comment I like how you can check and review each person's profiles and past forum posts. It helps me understand where people are coming from and what their general language and attitude is. I don't take anything personally for that matter. I respect everyone's own personal experience or why they might feel hurt and triggered that I made a bias post.
The infographic on the other hand I tried to be fair as another person would put it. I imagined if I had to start over again, I wish I read this review. For another person similar to me.
So my background is: I had not played this game. I don't relate to people who have given 20+ years of their life. Whereas as I, it was 2 years, but even then, on and off.
I'm going to be frank, if I had to sit my friends and parents down IRL and explain this game and what I went through and seen, I'd be doing so with a lot of embarrassment, they'd think my IQ dropped immensely (not to say that because there's people who look down at people who game) but it's just because, again, I don't really invest in social circles too much or drama. I always detach at some point quickly and do my own thing.
So when I did approach this game and community for that matter, it was very innocent for me.
I idealized people thinking they either thought similar to me to why they might play a game...
for just a game to zone out and a type of escapism.. relax.. make some friends.
Also the majority are much older crowd, so I immediately thought there was a level of maturity, safety and protectiveness.
It's just not entirely the case here. It's probably also due to an entirely different culture I'm dealing with when it's online than I'm used to and growing up with.
Not everyone has built those type of traits and probably still stuck in a primary phase of developing it.
I had to have people from the private community with years of experience walk through with me on voice chat that it's literally a dedicated hardcore fan base. Like they have given their whole life to this game. They integrated so much that they identify their whole identity or what makes them feel like an important individual. Because I just lack the sympathy to understand that. I can't put myself in people's shoes with this game.
For me the private server game just by content, was 10/10 and retail server game is going to end up being 10/10 by the end of it? Not because of the attention to all the incredible details of what goes into content. But it fulfills the main goal: I zone out, I'm not stressed, I get to be in a world of fantasy, and hangout with friends. It is fun. Once I'm done. I log out and don't think about it as much anymore and go on with my daily life.
Even with the HNM scenes I just showed up. I was not personally invested in the clique circle. I know they are people I would not hangout IRL. You just can kind of know the vibes and like who you sync with or repel. It's nothing personal. I wasn't going to be friends with everyone and I just like that feeling I am not obligated to a group but I just have very few close friends instead.
So with all the different types of harassments towards me and others, I knew it wasn't a normal occurrence.
It was blatantly really weird and messed up levels that could get you quickly expelled out of high school or even cybercrime levels when staff are all accumulated in the one LS and with there history of instigating those types of abuse in the past.
It was too great of a grey area that, again, would not repeat in under a retail settings due to laws set in place.
I initially planned to silently walk away like others because I mean that's what you just do. You disappear from the game and no one knows or why you left.
I do have people in the game and outside who are instinctive and want to protect me and so they went to higher levels with that for me: THAT by the way.. only made it so much worse as that's where I became vulnerable, mishandled completely and unprofessionally
disregarding all "Code of Conduct" & "Conflict of Interest" section etc. All stated on the website.
It doesn't even exist when there's 5+ different HNMs and lead LS leader is a head GM and best friends with the clique LS. And when any other staff should've gotten involved immediately, did not happen that way, it was only and purely oozing "Conflict of Interest". And all the leaders were sending mixed signals to me in more confusion.
On top of that, people gossip rampantly to me. And I mean I don't even think staff and developers really know how much they are gossiped about and can come from their closest people and fans who still play on the server.. so disliked or spoken ill about. People ARE willing to put up with the behavior, be silent about it, and make sure they don't get caught with their view so they dont get banned. But if the whole private persona and architecture was removed.. Like I am being constantly told that staff cannot be trusted.
And I'm just sitting behind my computer screen playing a video game, and I'm sitting here going.. "What?" I literally had no idea what I got entangled in.
And then I get even more harassed JUST for addressing the problem of there being an abuse culture going on.
Fans and HNMLS members are so distorted in their viewpoint they misinterpret me like I'm trying to trying take down their egos.
I left the LS and server completely out of respect for others if they want to continue operating in that way. But mostly for myself. Before anything even escalated. I planned to initially leave silently.
I am trying to communicate there are clear problems and I'm not the first person in all private server history who has pointed this out.
And it makes me very uncomfortable that there's people who go back more than a decade with all this history with one another. Even lifelong enemies. You can read it up on all the forums too. It's like being in a mafia movie. And I'm here very unaware and caught into all these types of unfamiliar clique energy and just disconnect.
It just takes the whole professionalism completely out of the equation.
It is literally not the case like I am trying to rob people of the game. I point these problems out so you can improve so you can desire to do better and the outcome is you keep people and know how to draw in more people by fixing these mistakes.
I do believe in
Law of Attraction. If you guys want to keep funneling in certain types of people and push out people like me, that's fine.
That's why I'm so gladly and I mean ecstatic and relieved to pay my subscription now because I am paying someone to literally do their "job." Because they are working for me to make sure I'm satisfied with their product. It removes all the mental leaps and degenerate variables you just don't get when it's lawfully operating company.
When you're under a private server that is just NOT the case. There are other motives at play beyond "just love and huge fan of the game." The psychological analysis people have had to feed me like it's meant to fulfill something missed out in their teenage years.
And it all takes away completely from looking at staff like staff. That stopped existing for me completely. And HNMLS from just being HNMLS. And a game that's meant to be just a game for me.
Like I couldn't focus on the game anymore and towards a Herald's Gaiters.
And I lost all respect for private severs at that point and have to separate myself because I CLEARLY do not belong. I don't understand whatever that whole energy and warped mentality people are in. But it's not a normal game.
I've tried other Free-to-Play MMOs that are legally liable and it is for a fact, not that.
I can log on. Game. Escape for a moment. Log out.
This is a product for me. I'm not the most hardcore fan. I could review this like I went to my regular mall off of 4th street.
But yea I hope to never go through the mental leaps of what I had to or would want that on any other individual who came into the private server scene mislead into thinking it was like any other legally liable game.
It got too much going on. It's way too dark and heavy for me to deal with.
All of this stuff robs the magic away from the game. The fact I have to think about what kind of people are behind little cute avatars is far too disturbing to me. What I subjected myself to. It's like I went and downloaded an illegal movie off a website and now dealing with twenty different viruses and it keeps replicating. Like I'm done.
It's shifted everything that I won't even complain about paying subscription anymore because I just know what I'm going to get as I've always known: A game and a peace of mind.