I believe what you are looking for is
this. This is from the same person that Caiyuo was talking about in their last post (Brandson). It's from a different part of his LJ site. It has just the dats for the font, some icon swaps like Utsu, and it has some different window color dats, but you don't have to use those if you don't want. Everything in the file you download is marked. Just follow the included instructions and you should be good.
You will want to change all of the dats that were changed with FFXI Style back to the originals before you go and change them again. And I don't know if you can use that FFXI UI Mod program to change just these or not. I just did it perma on my system because I like it much better than the original font.