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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-03 14:36:40
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Asura.Kingnobody said: »
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Hypothetical to call you on your BS - would you put your wife dressed in a mini skirt, cleavage busting out and whatnot, in front of a bunch of horny soldiers on a military base who haven't seen a woman in years?
You're what I like to call a "Smart Idiot" if you do.
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Wow, talk about taking an example to the extreme.

Sometimes I think your responses are just trolling.
I was referring to Flavin, not Maldini.
How is it extreme then?

In a thread where rape is being discussed he asked if you would put your wife in skimpy clothing out in front of a bunch of horny soldiers.

Why would it make you stupid if you did?

Unless you're implying that they're going to do something to your wife?
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By Asura.Kingnobody 2014-10-03 14:36:51
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Asura.Kingnobody said: »
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Quetzalcoatl.Maldini said: »

Hypothetical to call you on your BS - would you put your wife dressed in a mini skirt, cleavage busting out and whatnot, in front of a bunch of horny soldiers on a military base who haven't seen a woman in years?
You're what I like to call a "Smart Idiot" if you do.
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Wow, talk about taking an example to the extreme.

Sometimes I think your responses are just trolling.
I was referring to Flavin, not Maldini.
Yes, who was responding to Maldini's example. Because that's pretty much spot on what Maldini was implying with his example.
I'm confused, are you agreeing with me or are you trying to point out something I missed?
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By Asura.Kingnobody 2014-10-03 14:37:35
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Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
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Quetzalcoatl.Maldini said: »

Hypothetical to call you on your BS - would you put your wife dressed in a mini skirt, cleavage busting out and whatnot, in front of a bunch of horny soldiers on a military base who haven't seen a woman in years?
You're what I like to call a "Smart Idiot" if you do.
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Wow, talk about taking an example to the extreme.

Sometimes I think your responses are just trolling.
I was referring to Flavin, not Maldini.
How is it extreme then?

In a thread where rape is being discussed he asked if you would put your wife in skimpy clothing out in front of a bunch of horny soldiers.

Why would it make you stupid if you did?

Unless you're implying that they're going to do something to your wife?
You were the one implying things, not me.
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By Quetzalcoatl.Maldini 2014-10-03 14:38:41
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Bahamut.Milamber said: »
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Hypothetical to call you on your BS - would you put your wife dressed in a mini skirt, cleavage busting out and whatnot, in front of a bunch of horny soldiers on a military base who haven't seen a woman in years?
You're what I like to call a "Smart Idiot" if you do.
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Wow, talk about taking an example to the extreme.

Sometimes I think your responses are just trolling.

Its not a troll. I just want you to demonstrate you have some common sense.

You've demonstrated you're smart enough to understand the difference between people saying "she should be sensible" from the people who keep straw manning with the pathetic sarcastic response of "right she was asking to be raped when she got dressed up".

That example too extreme for you?
Ok - Woman dressed up and went out to certain night club and got raped. Do you or do you not tell your daughter to go out to the same club and dress the same way?
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By Asura.Kingnobody 2014-10-03 14:40:33
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Maldini, I just wanted you to know, I wasn't calling you a troll. I was calling Flavin one for his extreme example and response to your hypothetical.
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By Quetzalcoatl.Maldini 2014-10-03 14:42:03
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Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Maldini, I just wanted you to know, I wasn't calling you a troll. I was calling Flavin one for his extreme example and response to your hypothetical.

i want him to demonstrate eloquently in front of us all that he would send his daughter/wife out knowing he put them in some sort of potential harm to justify his stance.

In his book it seems more important to have an eloquent outlook than to make sense.
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-03 14:42:54
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Ragnarok.Nausi said: »
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Sleeping with a married woman does not give someone the right to burn your house down.
You are correct.

Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
It shouldn't even get you punched.
If you knew that the woman was married and yet, you still slept with her, you deserve a lot worse punishment than being punched.

A total *** kicking, sure.
Why?

There's obvisouly issues that they're having with their marriage and they should spend the time working on those problems or just give up on it.

There's no reason to go and beat some guys *** because you're angry about your wife stepping out on you lol...

Well, there IS a reason to, just not a very good one.

I've never understood it either, I would think that the person you should be angry at is your wife. She is supposed to have some concept of the marriage shes risking.

The guy on the other end has no clue what your marriage is made of.
I don't see it as a reason. Usually happy people don't step out on their spouses. There's already something wrong with it anyways.

The outside person doesn't care about your marriage and they're under no obligation to.
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-03 14:45:06
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Quetzalcoatl.Maldini said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Well the fact that Soldiers rape their own military comrades should answer that for you.

Are you guys really this naive?
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Maldini, I just wanted you to know, I wasn't calling you a troll. I was calling Flavin one for his extreme example and response to your hypothetical.
It was what he was implying as he more clearly stated her for ya.

If they'll rape their own they'll rape your wife.

Another swing and a miss from King.
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By Bahamut.Milamber 2014-10-03 14:45:24
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Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Bahamut.Milamber said: »
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Bahamut.Milamber said: »
Quetzalcoatl.Maldini said: »

Hypothetical to call you on your BS - would you put your wife dressed in a mini skirt, cleavage busting out and whatnot, in front of a bunch of horny soldiers on a military base who haven't seen a woman in years?
You're what I like to call a "Smart Idiot" if you do.
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Wow, talk about taking an example to the extreme.

Sometimes I think your responses are just trolling.
I was referring to Flavin, not Maldini.
Yes, who was responding to Maldini's example. Because that's pretty much spot on what Maldini was implying with his example.
I'm confused, are you agreeing with me or are you trying to point out something I missed?
You seem to be saying that Flavin took an example to the extreme. Flavin was responding to Maldini's post, which was not taking an example to the extreme, but responding to an extreme example.
The intent of Maldini's post can be correlated by his subsequent post, confirming that he was intending to portray soldiers as military male rape-bots(paraphrasing mine).
Quetzalcoatl.Maldini said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Well the fact that Soldiers rape their own military comrades should answer that for you.

Are you guys really this naive?
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
I'm confused, are you agreeing with me or are you trying to point out something I missed?
You seem to miss that it was Maldini that was making an extreme example, not Flavin. Implying Flavin is a troll for pointing out the corollaries to Maldini's exposition is incorrect. However, taking your statement and placing it against Maldini's would be accurate.

Hopefully that clarifies things.
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By Jetackuu 2014-10-03 14:45:43
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There's many kind of rapists/murderers out there and the truth of it is yes to some dressing a certain way, behaving a certain way, or being in a certain place is more likely to increase your risk of being a victim.

But there are scenarios where any of those don't make a ***.

Prostitutes are a known high risk, but for several factors and not just the way they're dressed, but if you're wearing the *** suit, somebody will mistake you for a ***. It's at that point that you only have yourself to be mad at when somebody thinks of you as an object, but it's still the offenders fault for violating them.

Is somebody dressed in sweats and a hoodie less likely to get assaulted than a chick in a *** suit? pretty sure statistically yes, but impossible? certainly not. But that's just raw analysis.

It's still *** up to say to somebody and their family though.
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By Asura.Kingnobody 2014-10-03 14:45:54
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Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Another swing and a miss from King.
Wait, I'm playing baseball in your mind?

No wonder you are so deluded.
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By Blazed1979 2014-10-03 14:46:51
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Milibar's response will be something along the lines of

"they're not one and the same"
or
"Its about who is responsible for who's actions"
or
"there are risks in everything we do"
or
"Are you implying that men are all rapists"
or
"Rape is not always associated with sex" - might be true, but this specific type of rape under the conditions being discussed in this forum, yes- the rape is of a sexual nature and motive.
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By Asura.Kingnobody 2014-10-03 14:47:58
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Bahamut.Milamber said: »
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Bahamut.Milamber said: »
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Bahamut.Milamber said: »
Quetzalcoatl.Maldini said: »

Hypothetical to call you on your BS - would you put your wife dressed in a mini skirt, cleavage busting out and whatnot, in front of a bunch of horny soldiers on a military base who haven't seen a woman in years?
You're what I like to call a "Smart Idiot" if you do.
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Wow, talk about taking an example to the extreme.

Sometimes I think your responses are just trolling.
I was referring to Flavin, not Maldini.
Yes, who was responding to Maldini's example. Because that's pretty much spot on what Maldini was implying with his example.
I'm confused, are you agreeing with me or are you trying to point out something I missed?
You seem to be saying that Flavin took an example to the extreme. Flavin was responding to Maldini's post, which was not taking an example to the extreme, but responding to an extreme example.
The intent of Maldini's post can be correlated by his subsequent post, confirming that he was intending to portray soldiers as military male rape-bots(paraphrasing mine).
Quetzalcoatl.Maldini said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Well the fact that Soldiers rape their own military comrades should answer that for you.

Are you guys really this naive?
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
I'm confused, are you agreeing with me or are you trying to point out something I missed?
You seem to miss that it was Maldini that was making an extreme example, not Flavin. Implying Flavin is a troll for pointing out the corollaries to Maldini's exposition is incorrect. However, taking your statement and placing it against Maldini's would be accurate.

Hopefully that clarifies things.
It did.

I didn't respond to Maldini's extreme example because, well, I was hoping that somebody else would correct it.

Flavin, on the other hand, took it and made it more extreme. And this isn't the first time he has done that either.
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-03 14:48:15
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Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Bahamut.Milamber said: »
Quetzalcoatl.Maldini said: »

Hypothetical to call you on your BS - would you put your wife dressed in a mini skirt, cleavage busting out and whatnot, in front of a bunch of horny soldiers on a military base who haven't seen a woman in years?
You're what I like to call a "Smart Idiot" if you do.
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Wow, talk about taking an example to the extreme.

Sometimes I think your responses are just trolling.
I was referring to Flavin, not Maldini.
How is it extreme then?

In a thread where rape is being discussed he asked if you would put your wife in skimpy clothing out in front of a bunch of horny soldiers.

Why would it make you stupid if you did?

Unless you're implying that they're going to do something to your wife?
You were the one implying things, not me.
I didn't say you implied anything. I stated that Maldini did which you seem to be too dense to comprehend.
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-03 14:49:03
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Asura.Kingnobody said: »
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Another swing and a miss from King.
Wait, I'm playing baseball in your mind?

No wonder you are so deluded.
That's the best you got?
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By Quetzalcoatl.Maldini 2014-10-03 14:49:23
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I'm innocent she said YES!!!
I SWEAR!
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By Asura.Kingnobody 2014-10-03 14:51:14
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Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Bahamut.Milamber said: »
Quetzalcoatl.Maldini said: »

Hypothetical to call you on your BS - would you put your wife dressed in a mini skirt, cleavage busting out and whatnot, in front of a bunch of horny soldiers on a military base who haven't seen a woman in years?
You're what I like to call a "Smart Idiot" if you do.
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Wow, talk about taking an example to the extreme.

Sometimes I think your responses are just trolling.
I was referring to Flavin, not Maldini.
How is it extreme then?

In a thread where rape is being discussed he asked if you would put your wife in skimpy clothing out in front of a bunch of horny soldiers.

Why would it make you stupid if you did?

Unless you're implying that they're going to do something to your wife?
You were the one implying things, not me.
I didn't say you implied anything. I stated that Maldini did which you seem to be too dense to comprehend.
Hmmm, should I use your own phrase? Another swing and a miss from Flavin.

Seriously though, you used an example that implies that men are inherently rapists when it comes to how a woman looks. It's even in your example.

I am not responding to Maldini's post, because that is not an argument I wish to go into.
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By Nazrious 2014-10-03 14:51:49
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Whole lot of failed humans....

Bars and clubs are not the place to go to find anything worthwhile, especially sex and even more so a spouse.

Lot of trash little boys thinking being a man involves some real stupid stuff.

There are proper ways to treat wome, today's youth of almost passed out vomitted one nighters is not it, nor is it the femdom fantasy of being treated like a princess while getting all the perks of being a Man.

None of this however has anything to do with how fail this law is.

It doesn't even help Victims and provides another tool for a lawyer to use to scare a victim even more.
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By Ragnarok.Nausi 2014-10-03 14:53:33
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Nazrious said: »
Whole lot of failed humans....

Bars and clubs are not the place to go to find anything worthwhile, especially sex and even more so a spouse.

Lot of trash little boys thinking being a man involves some real stupid stuff.

There are proper ways to treat wome, today's youth of almost passed out vomitted one nighters is not it, nor is it the femdom fantasy of being treated like a princess while getting all the perks of being a Man.

None of this however has anything to do with how fail this law is.

It doesn't even help Victims and provides another tool for a lawyer to use to scare a victim even more.
Who said I found my random drunk *** at bars?
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By Asura.Kingnobody 2014-10-03 14:55:05
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Ragnarok.Nausi said: »
Nazrious said: »
Whole lot of failed humans....

Bars and clubs are not the place to go to find anything worthwhile, especially sex and even more so a spouse.

Lot of trash little boys thinking being a man involves some real stupid stuff.

There are proper ways to treat wome, today's youth of almost passed out vomitted one nighters is not it, nor is it the femdom fantasy of being treated like a princess while getting all the perks of being a Man.

None of this however has anything to do with how fail this law is.

It doesn't even help Victims and provides another tool for a lawyer to use to scare a victim even more.
Who said I found my random drunk *** at bars?
I don't know about you, but my random drunk one-nighters are found in clubs.
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By Nazrious 2014-10-03 14:55:13
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Ragnarok.Nausi said: »
Nazrious said: »
Whole lot of failed humans....

Bars and clubs are not the place to go to find anything worthwhile, especially sex and even more so a spouse.

Lot of trash little boys thinking being a man involves some real stupid stuff.

There are proper ways to treat wome, today's youth of almost passed out vomitted one nighters is not it, nor is it the femdom fantasy of being treated like a princess while getting all the perks of being a Man.

None of this however has anything to do with how fail this law is.

It doesn't even help Victims and provides another tool for a lawyer to use to scare a victim even more.
Who said I found my random drunk *** at bars?

/facepalm
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By Jetackuu 2014-10-03 14:57:00
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Nazrious said: »
Whole lot of failed humans....

Bars and clubs are not the place to go to find anything worthwhile, especially sex and even more so a spouse.

Lot of trash little boys thinking being a man involves some real stupid stuff.

There are proper ways to treat wome, today's youth of almost passed out vomitted one nighters is not it, nor is it the femdom fantasy of being treated like a princess while getting all the perks of being a Man.

None of this however has anything to do with how fail this law is.

It doesn't even help Victims and provides another tool for a lawyer to use to scare a victim even more.


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By Asura.Kingnobody 2014-10-03 14:58:43
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Nazrious said: »
It doesn't even help Victims and provides another tool for a lawyer to use to scare a victim even more.
Just asking, but do you think this creates an opportunity for additional false claims to be made?
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By Bahamut.Kara 2014-10-03 15:00:49
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The past page in a half has had a discussion dealing with a text clarification issue.

In a thread bemoaning a law requiring clarifying language rather than body language or silence to be used as consent.

Ironic.
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By Bahamut.Milamber 2014-10-03 15:09:02
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Asura.Kingnobody said: »
It did.

I didn't respond to Maldini's extreme example because, well, I was hoping that somebody else would correct it.

Flavin, on the other hand, took it and made it more extreme. And this isn't the first time he has done that either.
How, exactly, did he make it more extreme?
He pretty must just asked Maldini to clarify whether it was the "soldier" part or the "male" part of "male soldier" (not explicitly stated, but implied) which makes them "go all rapey".

That last quote, by the way, I would be happy never to have to type again for the rest of my life.
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-03 15:09:58
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Maldini, I just wanted you to know, I wasn't calling you a troll. I was calling Flavin one for his extreme example and response to your hypothetical.

i want him to demonstrate eloquently in front of us all that he would send his daughter/wife out knowing he put them in some sort of potential harm to justify his stance.

In his book it seems more important to have an eloquent outlook than to make sense.
Listen. No where in any of my posts or any one's posts here on this board advocates sending anyone into a dangerous situation. No one. No one is saying hey baby I know this corner where girls get raped on the daily but the music is just so great so you should go there anyways. No one is saying that you shouldn't use caution when going about your life. Reality can be harsh yes and there are steps you can take to mitigate it.

Now hopefully we have that cleared up.

What I do take issue with is this idea that no matter what we do no matter what steps we take you'll still hold a victim responsible. You could take every precaution possible and bad things still happen anyways. This idea that people should dress a certain way or act a certain way otherwise they're just asking to be made a victim is ridiculous.

Would I send my hypothetical daughter out to a club where some other woman got raped the night before? No.

If she went anyways without my permission and was raped would I tell her it was her fault? No. Would I even insinuate that she had anything to do with it? No. Would I tell her that because her skirt was too short she was asking for it? No. Would you?

You guys seem to think that we don't understand what risk mitigation is. You'd be wrong.

You're idea of how to attack the problem though is to attack the victim. You should be doing this, you shouldn't be doing that! don't drink like a *** or dress like a *** and you won't get raped. It's funny cause most of you don't want anyone telling you how to live your life but don't mind telling others how to do it. Live your life in fear because someone is out to get you and if they do its your fault.

I just disagree with the way you look at the world.
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By Asura.Kingnobody 2014-10-03 15:11:51
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Bahamut.Milamber said: »
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
It did.

I didn't respond to Maldini's extreme example because, well, I was hoping that somebody else would correct it.

Flavin, on the other hand, took it and made it more extreme. And this isn't the first time he has done that either.
How, exactly, did he make it more extreme?
He pretty must just asked Maldini to clarify whether it was the "soldier" part or the "male" part of "male soldier" (not explicitly stated, but implied) which makes them "go all rapey".

That last quote, by the way, I would be happy never to have to type again for the rest of my life.
Maldini was implying that putting one's wife in a slutty outfit and placing them in a room full of male soldiers is asking for rape.

Flavin took that and implied that it's not just soldiers, but all men are like that.

Mind you, these were indirect implications, and open for interpretation. That's how I read their posts. If you didn't read it like that, then that's because our perceptions are different.

But I don't want to go further into that argument, as they are both idiots.
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-03 15:13:22
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Asura.Kingnobody said: »
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Asura.Kingnobody said: »
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Quetzalcoatl.Maldini said: »

Hypothetical to call you on your BS - would you put your wife dressed in a mini skirt, cleavage busting out and whatnot, in front of a bunch of horny soldiers on a military base who haven't seen a woman in years?
You're what I like to call a "Smart Idiot" if you do.
Asura.Kingnobody said: »
Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Are you saying that soldiers are unable to control themselves if they see a woman and they will go all rapey if they see one dressed in a miniskirt and a shirt showing cleavage?

Are you saying that we should not trust soldiers? Or is it that all men are basically rapists if a sexy woman is put in front of us?

Is self-control such a difficult concept?
Wow, talk about taking an example to the extreme.

Sometimes I think your responses are just trolling.
I was referring to Flavin, not Maldini.
How is it extreme then?

In a thread where rape is being discussed he asked if you would put your wife in skimpy clothing out in front of a bunch of horny soldiers.

Why would it make you stupid if you did?

Unless you're implying that they're going to do something to your wife?
You were the one implying things, not me.
I didn't say you implied anything. I stated that Maldini did which you seem to be too dense to comprehend.
Hmmm, should I use your own phrase? Another swing and a miss from Flavin.

Seriously though, you used an example that implies that men are inherently rapists when it comes to how a woman looks. It's even in your example.

I am not responding to Maldini's post, because that is not an argument I wish to go into.
My post didn't imply that. It wasn't a statement as there is a question mark at the end of the sentance. That makes it a question, you know me asking Maldini if that's what he actually thinks.

He made a statement, I replied and now because you can't read or understand the english language... here we are...
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By Bahamut.Milamber 2014-10-03 15:14:40
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Lakshmi.Flavin said: »
Flavin, sometimes you make me glad I didn't block you during your "..." phase.
This is one of those times.
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By Ramyrez 2014-10-03 15:15:52
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Flavin, sometimes you make me glad I didn't block you during your "..." phase.
This is one of those times.

He still likes to zing me now and then but I'm generally glad I never blocked him as well.

Admittedly it helps I'm working on just letting the religious talk go.

Though he did compare me to his grandmother just a few posts ago...
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