Siren.Mosin said: »
he's got a son, hell maybe more, they'll take care of him.
Idk...I going to stick my dad in a home so fast he will think he lived there his whole stinking life...
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Idk...I going to stick my dad in a home so fast he will think he lived there his whole stinking life...
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Shiva.Nikolce said: » Idk...I going to stick my dad in a home so fast he will think he lived there his whole stinking life... well so am I, but my dad hung out 1000 miles away when I was growing up, so I'm not a good one to judge on this one. I don't know if I'll be able to stick my mom in one or not. I'm thinking not though. There's putting someone in a home because they can't fend on their own anymore, and there's dropping someone off somewhere to rot.
There's a difference. =( Edit for Mos' post: Yeah, obviously this is contingent on caring about someone. I mean, I wouldn't be fawning over my dad, but my brother can cover that; he's the one who got raised by the man. But my mom and stepdad, definitely would do the best I could to get the comfortable. I guess maybe...
It'll really depend on what I have going on. *edit just talking to myself there, not in reply to you, ramy. Bismarck.Zenim said: » Looking back on your childhood, do you guys think knowing the grandparents was crucial? I mean it would be nice to survive long enough to meet them in theory but dying after the kids are confident and established in their lives and skipping the whole dragged out senility phase would be nice lol But hmmm I didn't really have grandparents, so maybe me staying alive long enough for the grandkids to turn 18+ and get established too is important for their development. It really comes down to knowing where and how you develop your ideals and ethics, than simply placing importance on old people you're related to. Bismarck.Zenim said: » Looking back on your childhood, do you guys think knowing the grandparents was crucial? I think it's highly dependant upon your grandparents and what kind of people they are. My maternal grandfather died when my mother was 17, four years before I was born. My paternal grandfather died when I was 6. I would have liked to have known both better (or at all), I think. But who knows. In contrast, I'm 32 and my maternal grandmother passed away only just back around this past Thanksgiving (she was 89), and my paternal grandmother is still alive and kicking, going out and about, pushing 90 herself (88 in May, iirc). My grandmothers have meant a lot to me, so my answer is that yes, they were crucial to my upbringing. But that's not the case for everyone, so..."no" is the "blanket" answer, but they can be very influential and helpful, if not vital. Edit: And thinking about it, even knowing my one grandfather until I was 6 is still something I value. There are great memories there, not just for me, but for my parents and other relatives who remember how happy he apparently was with me, too. Then again, as for my other grandfather, I was constantly told by that side of the family that I was "oh so very lucky your grandfather isn't alive" every time I misbehaved so...uh...maybe grandpa Ralph wouldn't have gone so well with me anyhow.
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*facedesks repeatedly*
Some days I'm not sure why I bother. Every time I try to fix or improve something, my boss undoes it. Apparently efficiency is the enemy.
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Oh God! The thought of "Which Parent Roulette" is setting in. Thanks, Ni. Thanks.
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Asura.Dameshi said: » *facedesks repeatedly* Some days I'm not sure why I bother. Every time I try to fix or improve something, my boss undoes it. Apparently efficiency is the enemy. You should probably check with your boss for approval anyways instead of wasting your time working on something only for it to be undone lol. Lakshmi.Flavin said: » Asura.Dameshi said: » *facedesks repeatedly* Some days I'm not sure why I bother. Every time I try to fix or improve something, my boss undoes it. Apparently efficiency is the enemy. You should probably check with your boss for approval anyways instead of wasting your time working on something only for it to be undone lol. YouTube Video Placeholder Lakshmi.Flavin said: » Asura.Dameshi said: » *facedesks repeatedly* Some days I'm not sure why I bother. Every time I try to fix or improve something, my boss undoes it. Apparently efficiency is the enemy. You should probably check with your boss for approval anyways instead of wasting your time working on something only for it to be undone lol. She literally doesn't understand the system, yet wants to be in charge of every thing. Hell, we have stuff that the cost went up 3 months ago, and she just now noticed because she doesn't even look at the *** paperwork closely, yet she is the only one who ever sees the paperwork for some reason. LET US DO WHAT WE NEED TO DO AND STOP GETTING IN THE MIDDLE OF THINGS THAT DON'T CONCERN YOU! ... Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest.
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Asura.Dameshi said: » *facedesks repeatedly* Some days I'm not sure why I bother. Every time I try to fix or improve something, my boss undoes it. Apparently efficiency is the enemy. buahahaha
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Bismarck.Zenim said: » Looking back on your childhood, do you guys think knowing the grandparents was crucial? Probably not a good idea to get between your girlfriend's son and the people who help take care of him.
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Asura.Dameshi said: » LET US DO WHAT WE NEED TO DO AND STOP GETTING IN THE MIDDLE OF THINGS THAT DON'T CONCERN YOU! but I'm bored & need someone's affairs to meddle in to keep my spirits up...
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ever hear of the peter principle? if not, look it up, it might cheer you up a bit.
Now I have to read that book.
Siren.Mosin said: » ever hear of the peter principle? if not, look it up, it might cheer you up a bit. Coincidentally, we have an employee named Peter. We equate him to taking company money and throwing it into traffic. Thus, I thank you for the laugh.
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 Bismarck.Zenim said: » Looking back on your childhood, do you guys think knowing the grandparents was crucial? I mean it would be nice to survive long enough to meet them in theory but dying after the kids are confident and established in their lives and skipping the whole dragged out senility phase would be nice lol But hmmm I didn't really have grandparents, so maybe me staying alive long enough for the grandkids to turn 18+ and get established too is important for their development. I think it's important, but it could just be because of my experiences. Let's see... My paternal grandfather flew cargo planes in North Africa and India during WWII, and he was chock full of the most insane and memorizing stories! We both loved skulking around in the woods, and he would bust out the telescope at a moment's notice. (He made no secret about me being the favorite, but that might be natural when you have four rowdy boys who produced six rowdy boys and one girl, maybe?) My paternal grandmother died before I was born. My maternal grandfather is still alive and kicking. His eightieth birthday was in 2013. We still exchange letters. Whenever I would spend summers in Germany, we would go for about a week to Bavaria or Bayern and take side-trips of side-trips of side-trips. He took me to Roman ruins around the Rhine, castles and palaces ( My maternal grandmother died when I was five. I vaguely remember that. I know my mom was out of sorts for a while. Side story:
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Asura.Dameshi said: » I did get a nice chuckle out of that though, fully picturing incompetent management. where ever I can help /tipsimaginaryhat
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Asura.Dameshi said: » Lakshmi.Flavin said: » Asura.Dameshi said: » *facedesks repeatedly* Some days I'm not sure why I bother. Every time I try to fix or improve something, my boss undoes it. Apparently efficiency is the enemy. You should probably check with your boss for approval anyways instead of wasting your time working on something only for it to be undone lol. She literally doesn't understand the system, yet wants to be in charge of every thing. Hell, we have stuff that the cost went up 3 months ago, and she just now noticed because she doesn't even look at the *** paperwork closely, yet she is the only one who ever sees the paperwork for some reason. LET US DO WHAT WE NEED TO DO AND STOP GETTING IN THE MIDDLE OF THINGS THAT DON'T CONCERN YOU! ... Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest. There's things I've tried to change around here over the years and some have and others haven't. Some seemed so simple it would be stupid not to but because someone didn't want it that way or there was some kind of company wide requirement forcing us to do things a certain way they never got put in place. There's plenty of reasons things get nixed but yeah it's better to get changes approved before hand especially when you know that will be her response anyways. Bright side being that at least you get some time before it changes back since she misses things for going on three months lol. Having grandparents is not crucial. Worry about having kids of your own first before you take on the mantle of becoming a grandparent.
Siren.Mosin said: » shut up flav. Lakshmi.Flavin said: » Having grandparents is not crucial. agreed. It'll vary largely from person to person. a person that has a compassionate interest in the child is all they need, being that a parent, grandparent, uncle, or stranger.
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My grandparents were crucial to shaping who I am. My mother's mother essentially raised me alongside my parents and my father's fathers principles shape my general moral character. Both outstanding people from very modest means who despite being flawed bent over backwards to give their future generations a better life.
Generally I'd think if your parents aren't decent people you'd probably want to keep your kids away from them but YMMV. You don't *need* grandparents, you just need decent people. Uncles, friends, aunts, cousins or something...
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