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By Ramyrez 2014-10-15 09:38:53
Righto. She's gotta be someone you can stand 10 years down the road.
By the way, I'm just beginning to realize that I think I've seen your name way back when I was playing FFXI. Were we ever in any parties together like 2-3 years ago?
Maybe? I've been around for a long time, always Ramyrez. I wasn't always on Bismarck though. I'm a Seraph refuge (/angry). I still miss my server. Bismarck smells like boiled cabbage. Like the entire server is in Bastok. ._.;
But yeah. It's been like, what? Four years now? Chances are if you've been an active NA in that time we've at least bumped into each other at an auction house or VW party or something.
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By Shiva.Nikolce 2014-10-15 09:44:28
Bismarck smells like boiled cabbage. Like the entire server is in Bastok. ._.;.
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By Bismarck.Misao 2014-10-15 09:44:38
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 Lakshmi.Flavin
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-15 09:49:10
I'm still with the same woman who loves me. Yeah, keep rubbing it in...
I can't speak for myself, as my relationship with my wife is -- while not entirely unique -- pretty different from most spousal relationships that I've seen. I can honestly say that if I were in a "traditional" marriage I'd be telling you careful what you wish for.
For instance, people use the term "wife aggro" when they have to step away from the game because of a spouse's needs, or people say their spouse wants them for something outside of game that they don't want to do.
Why the hell would you marry someone who doesn't want to play video games with you? This makes absolutely no sense to me. She could be the hottest woman on the planet but if she doesn't share my interests, I don't think I could make that work.
I think 99% of my coworkers all *** about their spouses, and the other one is a 51-year-old guy who married a 30-something who adores him, so...him and I seem to have what we want. Everyone else just...complains.
I dunno. Over-simplifying for a point, but...eh. Just realize, imo, it's got to be the right relationship. Not just "a" relationship. idk... some shared interests are nice but they don't always need to do the same things as you...
I think the biggest problem comes when your with someone and they won't tolerate your hobbies... there is always a balance though... It's not always easy for the other person in a relationship to deal with an MMO junky because of the sheer amount of time you can dump into the game which i've seen can lead to resentment and honestly I can understand that...
When a game seems to come before your significant other I can understand them getting pissed about it lol... so in situations like those I can see the whole sharing the same interest as a total benefit because you can still be with them in that platform...
It boils down to priorities...
People complain about a lot of things. I complain about you guys all the time... :)
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By Siren.Mosin 2014-10-15 09:50:38
you would...
By Ramyrez 2014-10-15 09:54:12
Quote: idk... some shared interests are nice but they don't always need to do the same things as you...
Not always. But...eh. Like I said. My wife and I are a bit weird.
I can understand the resentment if you're neglecting a mate because of an MMO. Which is why I can't understanding being with someone who isn't also into gaming, at least, if not the same MMO. Like, I know my ls leader has been married for v. long as well he doesn't play XI w/ her, but he plays WoW and other games.
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By Shiva.Nikolce 2014-10-15 09:58:38
men that complain about their wives are douchebags...
By Ramyrez 2014-10-15 10:00:54
men that complain about their wives are douchebags...
Anyone that complains about their spouse more than occasionally bothers me. I mean, we all get a little irked with people sometimes, even if we love them dearly, and that's one thing.
But when it's every day or two some new complaint...*** hell. You live in a country with the freedom to remedy the situation. Just do it already.
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By Bismarck.Misao 2014-10-15 10:02:18
hmm you know whatt?
i havent seen you know who, who shall not be named, in a while.
did you toss him in the dungeon?
no wonder things seem rather peaceful.
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By Anna Ruthven 2014-10-15 10:03:23
men that complain about their wives are douchebags... Or they have nothing else to talk about and need a hobby.
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By Siren.Mosin 2014-10-15 10:04:14
Or they have nothing else to talk about and need a hobby.
nope!
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By Bismarck.Misao 2014-10-15 10:06:13
or wife is holding out.
By Ramyrez 2014-10-15 10:20:24
Which, again, if there's not some sort of understand there, is indicative of a problem.
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By Shiva.Nikolce 2014-10-15 10:20:44
the wife is probably holding out because their husbands act like dickheaded little children that require more maintenance than a old jaguar v12.
I have a strict policy of walking anyone out to the parking lot who has the audacity to continue to *** about their full time working, kids, house and husband caring for, dealing with inlaw/outlaw family crisis on a regular basis, might as well work three full time jobs wife who stills puts up with their dumb ***...
you get one warning.
call it a "pet peeve" if you will, but that ***gets right under my finger nails like a metal splinter
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By Bahamut.Kara 2014-10-15 10:20:47
men that complain about their wives are douchebags... I really don't understand people who complain about their spouse.
1) If you don't like something with your spouse figure out why and fix it**. Or realize it will never change and either learn to live with it or leave.
2) That is a private relationship. Why would you want the whole world to know the details of it is beyond my understanding. Besides just something to *** about, which I'm beginning to think, a lot of people just like doing.
3) If this gets back to the spouse (it will) you know whatever you said will be twisted and that's not going to help the relationship one iota.
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** When I say figure out if that is what you are angry about or if it's a combination of many things. Fixing it where both the partners have to work towards fixing the problem. Or deciding that it is not an important problem, merely annoying, and letting go.
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-15 10:23:50
Quote: idk... some shared interests are nice but they don't always need to do the same things as you...
Not always. But...eh. Like I said. My wife and I are a bit weird.
I can understand the resentment if you're neglecting a mate because of an MMO. Which is why I can't understanding being with someone who isn't also into gaming, at least, if not the same MMO. Like, I know my ls leader has been married for v. long as well he doesn't play XI w/ her, but he plays WoW and other games. I don't think it's weird that you have shared interests lol...
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-15 10:26:53
men that complain about their wives are douchebags... I really don't understand people who complain about their spouse.
1) If you don't like something with your spouse figure out why and fix it. Or realize it will never change and either learn to live with it or leave.
2) That is a private relationship. Why would you want the whole world to know the details of it is beyond my understanding. Besides just something to *** about, which I'm beginning to think, a lot of people just like doing.
3) If this gets back to the spouse (it will) you know whatever you said will be twisted and that's not going to help the relationship one iota. 1)but I'm lazy! There are also people that don't like to deal with conflict no matter how big or small. They just want things to be good.
2)nothing is private on the internet! look at how many people here talk about all kinds of things dealing with their relationships!
3)maybe thats a good thing. They'll do the wlking you couldn't bring yourself to do.
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-15 10:29:53
Remember it's also not always as easy as hey I'm just gonna pack up and leave because I'm not enjoying myself anymore especially when you're married so yeah...
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By Lakshmi.Sparthosx 2014-10-15 10:37:35
men that complain about their wives are douchebags...
Anyone that complains about their spouse more than occasionally bothers me. I mean, we all get a little irked with people sometimes, even if we love them dearly, and that's one thing.
But when it's every day or two some new complaint...*** hell. You live in a country with the freedom to remedy the situation. Just do it already.
I have a coworker that does this every day. Like dude, you're going to die hating your wife and blaming her for the last 25 years of misery leading to serious health issues. Life lessons right here.
men that complain about their wives are douchebags... I really don't understand people who complain about their spouse.
1) If you don't like something with your spouse figure out why and fix it**. Or realize it will never change and either learn to live with it or leave.
2) That is a private relationship. Why would you want the whole world to know the details of it is beyond my understanding. Besides just something to *** about, which I'm beginning to think, a lot of people just like doing.
3) If this gets back to the spouse (it will) you know whatever you said will be twisted and that's not going to help the relationship one iota.
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** When I say figure out if that is what you are angry about or if it's a combination of many things. Fixing it where both the partners have to work towards fixing the problem. Or deciding that it is not an important problem, merely annoying, and letting go.
1. Kids are usually the problem or pressures from outside sources like family or friends. Many relationships are well past their due date but like moldy bread that hides from you in a cupboard, it lingers and turns into this gigantic mess that needs to be thrown out but looks so bad you don't even want to handle it.
2. It's a plea for help usually. People either want to have their positions validated by having someone reinforce they should 'tough it out' for reason X/Y/Z or co-conspirators for the eventual split. See! I followed you advice off a cliff, now let me stay at your place till I can get back on my feet.
3. Talking behind one's back is usually a sign of cowardice, the same cowardice that lulls many an individual in the problems that lead to a relationship hitting the rocks. Be it apathy, boredom or simply never caring to begin with.
If you can't get along dating or serious issues pop up "she doesn't like my hobbies" or "he doesn't like my friends" then what makes a person think this'll change after a 'magic' (read: drinking) ceremony? Dudes, look at your potential wives and imagine her bloated and saggy. If you still love her, commence duty!
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By Ramyrez 2014-10-15 10:37:53
Remember it's also not always as easy as hey I'm just gonna pack up and leave because I'm not enjoying myself anymore especially when you're married so yeah...
Yeah, I get that. But it's not that hard, either.
My parents figured it out in the early 80s. I'm pretty sure people can manage now.
I mean, there's always the financial factors and the like, but...if it's truly a bad situation, you'll figure out how to make that work.
And if it's a domestic abuse situation, on either side, go to the police already.
By Ramyrez 2014-10-15 10:39:09
Quote: 1. Kids are usually the problem or pressures from outside sources like family or friends. Many relationships are well past their due date but like moldy bread that hides from you in a cupboard, it lingers and turns into this gigantic mess that needs to be thrown out but looks so bad you don't even want to handle it.
As my wife has said repeatedly on these issues, she was a child with parents in a marriage that was well past its prime. You're doing the children absolutely no favors by staying together.
By Ramyrez 2014-10-15 10:40:45
On this topic, I do work in a workplace that's pretty evenly split between men/women. In my office it's actually the women who *** more, and sometimes it's even for justified reasons. But...it's constant. Don't just complain. Leave his jerk *** already.
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By Shiva.Nikolce 2014-10-15 10:41:04
my pops was a douchebag like that until moms left him/us for about three weeks.... after three days we were all as dirty as frenchmen and tired of eating lunch meat sandwiches, hotdogs and ***on a shingle... and cereal...
on day one he was all "what's the big deal!?, she didn't do anything but lay around and watch soap operas anyways..."
after three weeks of eating nothing but those words and old salami he came unglued....
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By Lakshmi.Sparthosx 2014-10-15 10:43:34
Quote: 1. Kids are usually the problem or pressures from outside sources like family or friends. Many relationships are well past their due date but like moldy bread that hides from you in a cupboard, it lingers and turns into this gigantic mess that needs to be thrown out but looks so bad you don't even want to handle it.
As my wife has said repeatedly on these issues, she was a child with parents in a marriage that was well past its prime. You're doing the children absolutely no favors by staying together.
I agree. But most marriages that stay together because of finances and simple expediency.
It's hard I imagine going back on the singles market at 40 after having failed to give a ***about yourself for years and having children to boot. You're like a box of clearance goods. Who the *** wants you? You've been priced down 4x and you're starting to take up space.
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-15 10:47:18
Remember it's also not always as easy as hey I'm just gonna pack up and leave because I'm not enjoying myself anymore especially when you're married so yeah...
Yeah, I get that. But it's not that hard, either.
My parents figured it out in the early 80s. I'm pretty sure people can manage now.
I mean, there's always the financial factors and the like, but...if it's truly a bad situation, you'll figure out how to make that work.
And if it's a domestic abuse situation, on either side, go to the police already. It isn't that easy... kids, money, living arrangements... some people are pretty vindictive too... I'm not saying it can't be done but it's not as easy as you make it out to be... Some are better at it then others...
I remember a pair of friends that lived together and when they broke up neither of them could afford to live on their own and had noone that would take on the committment of putting em up until they found their own places... as they parted somewhat amicably they decided to try and make the living situation work... This became a huge problem when one of them started dating again... Not always fun knowing someone you had feelings for or still do is just getting pounded in the room next to yours by some stranger... They fought about that too among other things as they were not as willing to overlook some of the annoying things they once did for eachother... one of em eventually gave up their life here and moved back home and the other stayed there til the boot came looking for em and really had to find some place to stay...
Emotions are high when breakups come and when you've been in a committed relationship for awhile it's hard to be reasonable and divy everything up again and move on...
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By Siren.Mosin 2014-10-15 10:47:26
men that complain about their wives are douchebags... I really don't understand people who complain about their spouse.
1) If you don't like something with your spouse figure out why and fix it**. Or realize it will never change and either learn to live with it or leave.
2) That is a private relationship. Why would you want the whole world to know the details of it is beyond my understanding. Besides just something to *** about, which I'm beginning to think, a lot of people just like doing.
3) If this gets back to the spouse (it will) you know whatever you said will be twisted and that's not going to help the relationship one iota.
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** When I say figure out if that is what you are angry about or if it's a combination of many things. Fixing it where both the partners have to work towards fixing the problem. Or deciding that it is not an important problem, merely annoying, and letting go.
I'm with the Danish on this one. classy as always.
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By Bismarck.Magnuss 2014-10-15 10:48:16
Raspberry or cream cheese?
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By Lakshmi.Flavin 2014-10-15 10:48:34
Lakshmi.Sparthosx said: »Quote: 1. Kids are usually the problem or pressures from outside sources like family or friends. Many relationships are well past their due date but like moldy bread that hides from you in a cupboard, it lingers and turns into this gigantic mess that needs to be thrown out but looks so bad you don't even want to handle it.
As my wife has said repeatedly on these issues, she was a child with parents in a marriage that was well past its prime. You're doing the children absolutely no favors by staying together.
I agree. But most marriages that stay together because of finances and simple expediency.
It's hard I imagine going back on the singles market at 40 after having failed to give a ***about yourself for years and having children to boot. You're like a box of clearance goods. Who the *** wants you? You've been priced down 4x and you're starting to take up space. Even if you think about it that way there's another man/woman out there that has gone through the same thing ish... I'm suree there's a divorced singles site out there somewhere...
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By Ramyrez 2014-10-15 10:51:11
Remember it's also not always as easy as hey I'm just gonna pack up and leave because I'm not enjoying myself anymore especially when you're married so yeah...
Yeah, I get that. But it's not that hard, either.
My parents figured it out in the early 80s. I'm pretty sure people can manage now.
I mean, there's always the financial factors and the like, but...if it's truly a bad situation, you'll figure out how to make that work.
And if it's a domestic abuse situation, on either side, go to the police already. It isn't that easy... kids, money, living arrangements... some people are pretty vindictive too... I'm not saying it can't be done but it's not as easy as you make it out to be... Some are better at it then others...
I remember a pair of friends that lived together and when they broke up neither of them could afford to live on their own and had noone that would take on the committment of putting em up until they found their own places... as they parted somewhat amicably they decided to try and make the living situation work... This became a huge problem when one of them started dating again... Not always fun knowing someone you had feelings for or still do is just getting pounded in the room next to yours by some stranger... They fought about that too among other things as they were not as willing to overlook some of the annoying things they once did for eachother... one of em eventually gave up their life here and moved back home and the other stayed there til the boot came looking for em and really had to find some place to stay...
Emotions are high when breakups come and when you've been in a committed relationship for awhile it's hard to be reasonable and divy everything up again and move on...
Thing is, in my eyes, if it's so bad that it's what you complain about to coworkers with whom you only interact at work...it's either gotten pretty bad or you're just the kind of person who likes to ***. In the later case, well, whatever. But in the case of the former, I'd think it'd be worth going through the hassle to get out of that kind of relationship.
Edit: As of 2010-10-05 14:48:06 CST, Ni reached 10,000 pages.
Since we all can't be on the same linkshell in game, this can be our cross server linkshell thread.
Like most linkshells, it can be pretty dead at times. Other times it's full of intense conversations about either rl, gear, goals, pokemon or anything else you want to contribute.
We can cover any sort of topic at all, within reason of the forum rules. No real main topic, just a bunch of FFXIAH friends/people coming on and discussing random things.
http://www.nationstates.net/nation=royal_kingdom_of_ni
Continuation from: http://www.ffxiah.com/forum/topic/2873/ffxiah-linkshell/732/#150486
Update: Sorry Eternaltriumph, too much has changed D: (Page 698)
Eternaltriumph said: Yeah Chuu. Bringing you up to speed, Ludoggy is the LS pedophile. I'm the fountain of random and useless knowledge that makes you go "Hrm" with the occasional side of "holy shit he said what?"
Kungfu is the LS nutjob, spouting super random things that are usually sexist, until Savvy or Alyria comes into the room. Then he's a classic case of sexual harrassment. Rumaha is also true to the second part; we're wondering about his sexuality though.
Daj is Ludoggy's gay lover. Not much else is known about this Asuran. Tairo is kinda new, but since is a female and Alyria's lesbian lover, she fit right in real quick.
Celene(F) and Rowland(M) are more of the shyer members, but often say things that are witty, have a good pun and sometimes cause three page discussions. Celene hates when people hit on her. It doesn't stop them from trying.
Krizz is just social and likes to kill time here during work Tbest is about the same, except tends to be a douche to guys and affectionate toward girls.
Alyria is the most social female, gets groped a lot without provoking it by others, and Tairo ends up stabbing people for it. Cai is just a barrel of lols, I might be gay for him. If I wasn't straight.
Not sure about Citag, s/he's new. Kiriyu is just an in-out kinda person. Says one thing every three days that every guy makes a big fuss over. Ludoggy gets really defensive since she's asian and underage (might be 18 now).
Artem is the wayward soul that makes you ponder the meaning of life by constantly reminding us life can suck. But he deals, and so do we. About the same for Savannah, except people are more "AWH!" to her because of a vagina involved.
Dasva is the ex military man (as is Krizz but this doesn't apply to him) who hates the world and plots a way to destroy most of it.
Number2 is kinda like a mix between Cai and I; never bashes, likes to laugh and has odd avatars. His current suits a lot of the convos this LS gets into. Barti is most well known for his moustache. He gives mousatche rides for a fee. I'm missing a few people but whatever. CARRY ON!
Luelle Smells.
Roster of FFXIAH Ni (as of April 1st, 2010 Pocoyo avatar craze)
One Year Anniversary!!!Asura.Ludoggy said: Happy b-day ls.
Heres my lame gift to AHLS, since Row is lame and took away the OP, I made my own!
Haseyo/Bignose: He's got a bigass nose, Leader of the RL avi revloution or some junk no one gives a crap about...crazy about his asian pop/rock bands and is a closet pedo. AKA LAME
Dameshi: wont level his sam sub and is a lolblu, LAME
Citag: Doesnt put out, Really lame
Dasva: Uses Chu as a cover up for his desire for me greased up and naked on his bed, Lame.
Rydiya/Bra+Panties: Secret lesbien, doesnt wear bra+panties, like to knit and other old people stuff (bingo)
Pikachu/Chu: Hi Chu, I love chu
Kryee/Socks: Noms on socks, wears the sam red pair everyday and frequently sniffs her arm pits.
Cheyne: Domo origoto, Mr Roboto...I think he's gay.
Urial: SOCCER IS LAME AND YOU'RE LAME.
Thundars: LOLCANADIAN
Spence: LOLFRENCHCANADIAN
Enterius/ghost: He's a ghost...he'll say something witty to me later.
Ixe: Ducky face and cant seem to get a straw in her mouth (can get other things in there though)
Mairah: She cool...lame
Bart: Full times OPO-OPO, free mustache rides otherwise LAME
Sav/Mango: Field trips, yay!
Aly/thatgreenmodthatwillbanmeifIsayanythingbad: *tapes*
Woody: You're not Italian...no tea for you.
Sectum: My apprentice...loves asian girls, loves to cook...he's awesome. put me in a story where I wasnt a pedo and that'd cool
Rum:STOP RAIDING MY BASEMENT AND TAKING AWAY MY GIRLS GAWD. Long Islander...lame
Valencea:Wont tell me the color of her undies, you lost the bet...no we cant get married...NO MEANS NO
Kojo:Open pedo...he likes scat, ewww
Tohsou: I think he's a pedo with a girlfriend as cover up, lame.
Kiriyu/strawberry: Lurk Less post moar! I see you what you are doing!
Krizz: Mohawk guy #1
Triet: Mohawk guy #1...wait
Bloodbathboy: The Hulk
Kungfuhustle: AH%DUE%$JNSRGHSRHHEYHEHSA Y%HEDHGSR EAT AHUYY DONKEY NUTS
Celene: Quit...Canadian...who the hell quits?
Tbest: MIA
Eternaltriumph: Where the hell has he been? Is he gone cause he got pussywhipped or something? Whatever...
#2: GOD...I miss him /cry
Luelle/otherlu: The Other Lu.
Zekky: Quit, kicking ass, raped me :\
Krystale/Girlwithpiercing: Magnets stick to her, Toke Canadian, hawt...she's 15 right?
Marzbarz: NINJA
Rowland: All your Pocoyo are belong to...him
Weewoo/Tool: He liked Asura and wont admit it.
Miemo: Has a mithra avi c.c
Kalyna: is a girl right? right? oh...lame
Gimmeurselables: TOO MUCH BOUNCE...TOO BIG, EWWWW
Sagittario: Lame elf whu runs around in a diaper subligar
Ludoggy: Faggot
Edit: The Family Ni Tree
Luelle's (And Citag's too!) birthday present
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Krizz 22085 2007-06-30 15:22:38
Haseyo 20875 2009-01-12 15:55:51
Dameshi 19807 2009-02-17 10:29:14
Urial 18636 2008-02-09 01:15:03
Spence 18475 2009-05-04 11:26:27
Kalyna 15001 2010-01-21 11:40:04
Rydiya 13469 2008-05-16 05:24:33
Alyria 12656 2007-10-23 10:58:35
Tigerwoods 10807 2007-03-14 21:10:43
Enternius 10382 2007-08-10 04:14:29
Slipispsycho 10072 2008-09-05 08:56:34
Rumaha 10000 2009-02-20 13:28:03
Kojo 9060 2007-06-30 17:46:02
Sevourn 8567 2009-02-10 00:10:20
Cheyne 8527 2007-04-27 12:27:54
Mabrook 8356 2008-07-01 00:53:38
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