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 Phoenix.Elspetta
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By Phoenix.Elspetta 2012-07-24 10:11:24
Cheating happens, common or not. If they cheat, obviously they don't like you so why are you with them still? ^^ If someone is cheating, they are obviously missing out on something in their current relationship that they are getting elsewhere. If this is the case, leave the person and find another. If the situation is that you just want to be with multiple people instead of just one, then don't get in a relationship.
Cheating is utterly pointless.
I do think that many people are afraid of being cheated on and use it as an out. When if you actually look at the situation, you didn't want to be with that person in the first place.
 Cerberus.Kalyna
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By Cerberus.Kalyna 2012-07-24 10:13:57
There are times where women like try to test to see if you really love them by doing stupid things like going to group dates with friends and seeing if you get jealous or not.
Phoenix.Elspetta
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By Phoenix.Elspetta 2012-07-24 10:16:13
That is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Woman like that are just insecure ... have some confidence in yourself, sheesh!
BTW ~ men do stupid stuff too ... it's not just woman.
Cerberus.Kalyna
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By Cerberus.Kalyna 2012-07-24 10:18:10
The difference is, we do stupid stuff to troll you women.
 Asura.Ina
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By Asura.Ina 2012-07-24 10:21:07
BTW ~ men do stupid stuff too ... it's not just woman. Has there ever in history been doubt of this?
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Odin.Liela
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By Odin.Liela 2012-07-24 10:22:42
So, what's everyone's opinion on cheating?
It seems like half the people I hear about cheating from are either like "everyone does it, so you should do it too", or "you're too young to be tied down to one person, go have fun". And the other half are like "I bet you're being cheated on"
Is cheating really this common? Or are people just using fear inducing tactics?
I don't think cheating is that common. Well, maybe in some circles, like for example if a person is just early twenties and still going out clubbing and meeting new people on a weekly basis, but not in my circle, where we are boring old grown-ups who haven't seen the inside of a club for years and like it that way.
There are times where women like try to test to see if you really love them by doing stupid things like going to group dates with friends and seeing if you get jealous or not.
If she does this, she's too young and still playing petty games. Women who play games and 'test' their men are not yet mature enough for a relationship. Wait a couple years until she's a bit more secure in herself and less skittish and petty.
I doubt you are considering cheating, because you're Row and that's not like you, I don't think. But if you are, don't. If she doesn't find out, you'll probably feel awful anyways. If you don't feel awful, you'll keep doing it until she does find out. Once she does find out, you'll lose a friend and a lover and trust that will be impossible to reclaim. You'll also always have the 'stigma' of a cheater, so to speak-- she'll tell her friends that you cheated, it'll get around to your next girlfriend, or your next one after that, or your wife. You don't really want to be married five years to a woman you adore with a kid on the way and have her hear from someone that you are a cheater. Even if you never cheated on her, she'll still distrust you for it.
Just my opinion. Same goes for girls. If you think you might cheat, have the respect for your partner to break up first. A break-up is always better than a betrayal.
Cerberus.Kalyna
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By Cerberus.Kalyna 2012-07-24 10:27:15
I don't see Row as a cheater. What he did that night was definitely not cheating.
Quetzalcoatl.Xueye
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By Quetzalcoatl.Xueye 2012-07-24 10:32:56
Everyone *** up.
It's up to you if you forgive them or not.
But as it stands, we human beings are a ferociously emotionally unstable lot. We do ***we shouldn't, we break promise. Sometimes, we cheat.
Sometimes a relationship is worth saving. Sometimes it's not. It's really a case by case thing. There is no heavy black/white "cheating is always grounds to breakup."
Some people get struck by depression and cheat because they're spiraling down and are trying to find a sense of worth. Sometimes you're tool damn hurt to communicate right.
Sometimes you're just a cheating ***.
/shrug
Phoenix.Elspetta
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By Phoenix.Elspetta 2012-07-24 10:36:31
Quetzalcoatl.Xueye said: »Sometimes a relationship is worth saving. Sometimes it's not. It's really a case by case thing. There is no heavy black/white "cheating is always grounds to breakup." I agree with this 100%. I have known people who cheated for <insert reason here> and it was a one-time thing. The couple worked it out and stayed together for almost 35 years.
Cerberus.Kalyna
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By Cerberus.Kalyna 2012-07-24 10:36:58
Bad Luck Brianette?
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By Asura.Chuuuuu 2012-07-24 10:53:23
my dad cheated on my mom but if they stayed divorced i would have never been born :P they got back together and he said he was young and stupid and still together to this day but not really the most affectionate couple lol i know people cheat but its not something id ever do knowingly lol i guess once a guy liked to call me when i was with someone else and i was told i was emotionally cheating on my bf lol :I didnt occur to me then but now i guess it makes sense :\ lol still if a bf cheated on me i probably would just dump and move on with my life lol
Cerberus.Draupnir
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By Cerberus.Draupnir 2012-07-24 11:05:26
Pink ponies and giant pandas.....
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By Carbuncle.Joeywheeler 2012-07-24 11:17:23
Cheating is the key to long marriage according to Dane Cook
Bismarck.Magnuss
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By Bismarck.Magnuss 2012-07-24 11:18:20
When people cheat, it just *** everything up. My latest ex told me very specifically that if she found out I was having sex with someone else while the two of us were together, she'd break up with me without batting an eye. And I totally agree with that sentiment. If you really feel you need to have sex with another person, then you're not mature enough to handle a relationship. So, I stood by her statement thinking it was 100%. Turns out just before I broke up with her that she wanted to have sex with other guys, and that she wanted me to just accept that and as long as she told me about it, she was free and clear. This is the same chick. So to me, the whole subject is beyond *** up, at least with her. It seems you can't take anyone's word on anything.
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By Asura.Chuuuuu 2012-07-24 11:21:36
When people cheat, it just *** everything up. My latest ex told me very specifically that if she found out I was having sex with someone else while the two of us were together, she'd break up with me without batting an eye. And I totally agree with that sentiment. If you really feel you need to have sex with another person, then you're not mature enough to handle a relationship. So, I stood by her statement thinking it was 100%. Turns out just before I broke up with her that she wanted to have sex with other guys, and that she wanted me to just accept that and as long as she told me about it, she was free and clear. This is the same chick. So to me, the whole subject is beyond *** up, at least with her. It seems you can't take anyone's word on anything. what that makes no sense lol :I
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By Carbuncle.Joeywheeler 2012-07-24 11:27:09
I think as you get older the more and more common it is to find people with commitment issues.
Bismarck.Magnuss
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By Bismarck.Magnuss 2012-07-24 11:29:53
When people cheat, it just *** everything up. My latest ex told me very specifically that if she found out I was having sex with someone else while the two of us were together, she'd break up with me without batting an eye. And I totally agree with that sentiment. If you really feel you need to have sex with another person, then you're not mature enough to handle a relationship. So, I stood by her statement thinking it was 100%. Turns out just before I broke up with her that she wanted to have sex with other guys, and that she wanted me to just accept that and as long as she told me about it, she was free and clear. This is the same chick. So to me, the whole subject is beyond *** up, at least with her. It seems you can't take anyone's word on anything. what that makes no sense lol :I I know! It was a complete 180! I was reeling when I heard about that. So I stopped the relationship right there.
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Odin.Liela
Server: Odin
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Posts: 10191
By Odin.Liela 2012-07-24 11:32:07
Quetzalcoatl.Xueye said: »Everyone *** up.
It's up to you if you forgive them or not.
But as it stands, we human beings are a ferociously emotionally unstable lot. We do ***we shouldn't, we break promise. Sometimes, we cheat.
Sometimes a relationship is worth saving. Sometimes it's not. It's really a case by case thing. There is no heavy black/white "cheating is always grounds to breakup."
Some people get struck by depression and cheat because they're spiraling down and are trying to find a sense of worth. Sometimes you're tool damn hurt to communicate right.
Sometimes you're just a cheating ***.
/shrug
This is true, too. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes, no one is infallible. It's just, well, cheating is a very very big mistake. Most of you here know that my mother cheated and that is why my parents divorced. That was well over twenty years ago and she still regrets it deeply to this day and that my father and her are still in love. My mom ended up marrying the man she cheated with, they divorced several years later after years of horrible married life because he was molesting their foster daughters. He's in prison for child molestation and he can rot there. My dad has been halfway miserable in his marriage for years as well. I think if they had both been less prideful back in the day, they could have worked it out and remained married and both been much happier for it.
Cheating never occurred to me as an option, ever. It's just not something I do.
This friend of mine has been cheated on in the past, it's like her life is surrounded by cheaters. Her parents had cheated before, her grandparents admitted to cheating. I think she assumes everyone is a cheater to some degree. How does one explain what stops someone from cheating? I try to tell her not everyone is like that. But it's hard to convince someone of something like that when they've never seen proof.
:-( That is a difficult situation. Everyone seems to know someone who has cheated, but that doesn't mean everyone cheats. Maybe finding several people who have never cheated and telling her about them would help. Poor girl, that's just setting her up for a hard time later if she can't trust anyone. It's not fair to her boyfriends either, it's selling them short and maybe even hurting their feelings that she can't trust them.
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By Asura.Chuuuuu 2012-07-24 11:37:56
When people cheat, it just *** everything up. My latest ex told me very specifically that if she found out I was having sex with someone else while the two of us were together, she'd break up with me without batting an eye. And I totally agree with that sentiment. If you really feel you need to have sex with another person, then you're not mature enough to handle a relationship. So, I stood by her statement thinking it was 100%. Turns out just before I broke up with her that she wanted to have sex with other guys, and that she wanted me to just accept that and as long as she told me about it, she was free and clear. This is the same chick. So to me, the whole subject is beyond *** up, at least with her. It seems you can't take anyone's word on anything. what that makes no sense lol :I I know! It was a complete 180! I was reeling when I heard about that. So I stopped the relationship right there. sounds like you made the right choice!
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Odin.Liela
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By Odin.Liela 2012-07-24 11:38:04
I'm sure the younger you are, the less consequences there are to cheating. As opposed to when you're older with a house, married, kids, pets, etc. I don't understand how men would cheat in that circumstance. If they cheat, they lose half their things.
However, women in that situation usually get rewarded for cheating. A woman cheated on you and now she wants a divorce and she wants half your stuff? Sure, go ahead.
She loses half as well. If the judge is fair, anyhow. Unfortunately, she'll also usually end up with more custody of any children she's placed into the middle of the situation.
Women don't seem to think that men have feelings or that they won't be devastated to find out their wife was cheating. I think some girls think that their boyfriend might be mad just out of jealousy, but not out of hurt feelings or a betrayed feeling. It makes me sad when girls think like that. Men would feel just as heartbroken as women would feel in that situation!
Quetzalcoatl.Xueye
Server: Quetzalcoatl
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Posts: 6386
By Quetzalcoatl.Xueye 2012-07-24 11:38:36
When people cheat, it just *** everything up. My latest ex told me very specifically that if she found out I was having sex with someone else while the two of us were together, she'd break up with me without batting an eye. And I totally agree with that sentiment. If you really feel you need to have sex with another person, then you're not mature enough to handle a relationship. So, I stood by her statement thinking it was 100%. Turns out just before I broke up with her that she wanted to have sex with other guys, and that she wanted me to just accept that and as long as she told me about it, she was free and clear. This is the same chick. So to me, the whole subject is beyond *** up, at least with her. It seems you can't take anyone's word on anything.
My qualm with this is that some of us simply have the urge to be more sexually active than our partners.
Bismarck.Magnuss
Server: Bismarck
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By Bismarck.Magnuss 2012-07-24 11:40:59
Quetzalcoatl.Xueye said: »When people cheat, it just *** everything up. My latest ex told me very specifically that if she found out I was having sex with someone else while the two of us were together, she'd break up with me without batting an eye. And I totally agree with that sentiment. If you really feel you need to have sex with another person, then you're not mature enough to handle a relationship. So, I stood by her statement thinking it was 100%. Turns out just before I broke up with her that she wanted to have sex with other guys, and that she wanted me to just accept that and as long as she told me about it, she was free and clear. This is the same chick. So to me, the whole subject is beyond *** up, at least with her. It seems you can't take anyone's word on anything.
My qualm with this is that some of us simply have the urge to be more sexually active than our partners. This is also quite true. And maybe it's not exactly the same with everyone, but a trip to Palmdale is better than ruining your relationship with someone else because they don't like to boink as often as you.
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By Asura.Chuuuuu 2012-07-24 11:43:08
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By Siren.Mosin 2012-07-24 11:44:41
wow NI is serious business today...
Bismarck.Magnuss
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By Bismarck.Magnuss 2012-07-24 11:47:35
So I says to the guy, I says, "Rectum?! Damn near killed 'im!"
Cerberus.Kalyna
Server: Cerberus
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By Cerberus.Kalyna 2012-07-24 11:49:55
Come back from lunchbreak, see Magnuss mention "Rectum"
thanks man
Edit: As of 2010-10-05 14:48:06 CST, Ni reached 10,000 pages.
Since we all can't be on the same linkshell in game, this can be our cross server linkshell thread.
Like most linkshells, it can be pretty dead at times. Other times it's full of intense conversations about either rl, gear, goals, pokemon or anything else you want to contribute.
We can cover any sort of topic at all, within reason of the forum rules. No real main topic, just a bunch of FFXIAH friends/people coming on and discussing random things.
http://www.nationstates.net/nation=royal_kingdom_of_ni
Continuation from: http://www.ffxiah.com/forum/topic/2873/ffxiah-linkshell/732/#150486
Update: Sorry Eternaltriumph, too much has changed D: (Page 698)
Eternaltriumph said: Yeah Chuu. Bringing you up to speed, Ludoggy is the LS pedophile. I'm the fountain of random and useless knowledge that makes you go "Hrm" with the occasional side of "holy shit he said what?"
Kungfu is the LS nutjob, spouting super random things that are usually sexist, until Savvy or Alyria comes into the room. Then he's a classic case of sexual harrassment. Rumaha is also true to the second part; we're wondering about his sexuality though.
Daj is Ludoggy's gay lover. Not much else is known about this Asuran. Tairo is kinda new, but since is a female and Alyria's lesbian lover, she fit right in real quick.
Celene(F) and Rowland(M) are more of the shyer members, but often say things that are witty, have a good pun and sometimes cause three page discussions. Celene hates when people hit on her. It doesn't stop them from trying.
Krizz is just social and likes to kill time here during work Tbest is about the same, except tends to be a douche to guys and affectionate toward girls.
Alyria is the most social female, gets groped a lot without provoking it by others, and Tairo ends up stabbing people for it. Cai is just a barrel of lols, I might be gay for him. If I wasn't straight.
Not sure about Citag, s/he's new. Kiriyu is just an in-out kinda person. Says one thing every three days that every guy makes a big fuss over. Ludoggy gets really defensive since she's asian and underage (might be 18 now).
Artem is the wayward soul that makes you ponder the meaning of life by constantly reminding us life can suck. But he deals, and so do we. About the same for Savannah, except people are more "AWH!" to her because of a vagina involved.
Dasva is the ex military man (as is Krizz but this doesn't apply to him) who hates the world and plots a way to destroy most of it.
Number2 is kinda like a mix between Cai and I; never bashes, likes to laugh and has odd avatars. His current suits a lot of the convos this LS gets into. Barti is most well known for his moustache. He gives mousatche rides for a fee. I'm missing a few people but whatever. CARRY ON!
Luelle Smells.
Roster of FFXIAH Ni (as of April 1st, 2010 Pocoyo avatar craze)
One Year Anniversary!!!Asura.Ludoggy said: Happy b-day ls.
Heres my lame gift to AHLS, since Row is lame and took away the OP, I made my own!
Haseyo/Bignose: He's got a bigass nose, Leader of the RL avi revloution or some junk no one gives a crap about...crazy about his asian pop/rock bands and is a closet pedo. AKA LAME
Dameshi: wont level his sam sub and is a lolblu, LAME
Citag: Doesnt put out, Really lame
Dasva: Uses Chu as a cover up for his desire for me greased up and naked on his bed, Lame.
Rydiya/Bra+Panties: Secret lesbien, doesnt wear bra+panties, like to knit and other old people stuff (bingo)
Pikachu/Chu: Hi Chu, I love chu
Kryee/Socks: Noms on socks, wears the sam red pair everyday and frequently sniffs her arm pits.
Cheyne: Domo origoto, Mr Roboto...I think he's gay.
Urial: SOCCER IS LAME AND YOU'RE LAME.
Thundars: LOLCANADIAN
Spence: LOLFRENCHCANADIAN
Enterius/ghost: He's a ghost...he'll say something witty to me later.
Ixe: Ducky face and cant seem to get a straw in her mouth (can get other things in there though)
Mairah: She cool...lame
Bart: Full times OPO-OPO, free mustache rides otherwise LAME
Sav/Mango: Field trips, yay!
Aly/thatgreenmodthatwillbanmeifIsayanythingbad: *tapes*
Woody: You're not Italian...no tea for you.
Sectum: My apprentice...loves asian girls, loves to cook...he's awesome. put me in a story where I wasnt a pedo and that'd cool
Rum:STOP RAIDING MY BASEMENT AND TAKING AWAY MY GIRLS GAWD. Long Islander...lame
Valencea:Wont tell me the color of her undies, you lost the bet...no we cant get married...NO MEANS NO
Kojo:Open pedo...he likes scat, ewww
Tohsou: I think he's a pedo with a girlfriend as cover up, lame.
Kiriyu/strawberry: Lurk Less post moar! I see you what you are doing!
Krizz: Mohawk guy #1
Triet: Mohawk guy #1...wait
Bloodbathboy: The Hulk
Kungfuhustle: AH%DUE%$JNSRGHSRHHEYHEHSA Y%HEDHGSR EAT AHUYY DONKEY NUTS
Celene: Quit...Canadian...who the hell quits?
Tbest: MIA
Eternaltriumph: Where the hell has he been? Is he gone cause he got pussywhipped or something? Whatever...
#2: GOD...I miss him /cry
Luelle/otherlu: The Other Lu.
Zekky: Quit, kicking ass, raped me :\
Krystale/Girlwithpiercing: Magnets stick to her, Toke Canadian, hawt...she's 15 right?
Marzbarz: NINJA
Rowland: All your Pocoyo are belong to...him
Weewoo/Tool: He liked Asura and wont admit it.
Miemo: Has a mithra avi c.c
Kalyna: is a girl right? right? oh...lame
Gimmeurselables: TOO MUCH BOUNCE...TOO BIG, EWWWW
Sagittario: Lame elf whu runs around in a diaper subligar
Ludoggy: Faggot
Edit: The Family Ni Tree
Luelle's (And Citag's too!) birthday present
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Ludoggy 26597 2009-02-25 22:31:23
Flionheart 22174 2008-11-17 14:28:15
Krizz 22085 2007-06-30 15:22:38
Haseyo 20875 2009-01-12 15:55:51
Dameshi 19807 2009-02-17 10:29:14
Urial 18636 2008-02-09 01:15:03
Spence 18475 2009-05-04 11:26:27
Kalyna 15001 2010-01-21 11:40:04
Rydiya 13469 2008-05-16 05:24:33
Alyria 12656 2007-10-23 10:58:35
Tigerwoods 10807 2007-03-14 21:10:43
Enternius 10382 2007-08-10 04:14:29
Slipispsycho 10072 2008-09-05 08:56:34
Rumaha 10000 2009-02-20 13:28:03
Kojo 9060 2007-06-30 17:46:02
Sevourn 8567 2009-02-10 00:10:20
Cheyne 8527 2007-04-27 12:27:54
Mabrook 8356 2008-07-01 00:53:38
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