What Do You Do On FFXI After Your Friends Quit.

I've played FFXI about 3 and a half years, I've got a lot done in that time. I partied back when it was a grind and exp didn't come easy. I had all the story lines done before they were nerfed. The game is still fun, but the best part of it to me was doing all those things with friends, and taking in the cutscenes and stories of the game. Now exp is easy, getting most things is easy, and a ton if stuff is soloable. But what fun is soloing? I think soloing sucks. The whole point of the game to me was making friends and getting stuff done, even when sometimes you'd just as soon choke some of your friends than try to complete missions with them. Anyway, the whole point is what do you do after your friends quit the game. Yeah yeah you could make more friends, but it's not the same when your best friends leave. I stand around looking for shouts on a mission or fight that may be halfway entertaining, but even that gets pretty boring. So the majority of my time on FFXI is spent just standing around reading shouts. And yeah I could join a new LS, but another problem with FFXI. I worked hard for what I have and I'm not breaking my back to get someone else their stuff and never get anything in return.

There aren't really any lines when it comes to VW stuff. It's all random and each person gets a treasure pool.

Most of my friends quit too. /comfort. It was a good run with them, but they've moved on to other things. What makes it worth playing still for me is that my husband and I play together. A constant duo partner makes it fun, and the fact that it's someone I'm very close to in real life makes it even better. Like the game is an extension of our real life friendship, partnership.

Maybe if you could find just one person in-game to get close to instead of searching out a whole new group, or ask your sweetheart or a rl friend to play it with you, it would be better. :-(

Pretty much all the people I used to do everything with left the game while I was having a break from it due to other commitments, and so when I came back I was effectively in your shoes. My LS' broke and I pretty much had no one so it was very dull just standing around not really knowing what to do with myself.

There are a couple of things you could do:

• Find a new linkshell

• Make new friends by responding to shouts etc

• Try and get your old friends to join up again

• Move servers and start over

• Be a loner and do things on your own where possible

• Quit the game

I went for the option of responding to shouts for things, and I ran into old friends I didn't know still played, and from there got a few linkshells to join etc. You still have options, if you like the game then just try to make new friends, not everyone will be after help 24/7 and just take and not give. Look up the Final Fantasy XI group on Facebook if you have it and don't already belong to it, maybe you can find people on your server who need the same things you do etc.

Take their account and make it your mule.

Smart *** Answer: Make new friends

Personal Answer: Stop playing myself, no new friend I make now could replace the friends I've made since the game started. I stay in touch with them but they still don't play the game anymore. It's very hard for me to get motivated about anything when it just doesn't feel the same since the majority of my friends quit during Abyssea and VW.

Make new friends, a lot of my friends quit also but I kept going. There is always people out there to meet, unless you hate a good majority of your server which is common. You could try moving servers and joining someone else.

I ran into this before the game took a huge change. I just ran around sorta like meh, making new friends that as you say were not really the same. Once I saw the game was going to change to the point that it was not even going to be the same game I just quit too.

I guess try and find a new LS or do a server transfer? Don't know what else you could do besides quit.

/em hits the "like" button

I've had several sets of friends quit/advance way beyond me, out of all the people I've noticed who get the most done without being on 24/7 are those who have at least 1 other steady person to play with, so the ideas of finding a rl friend to play with you is the best bet.

Why pine for these so called great old friends that quit? Make new friends. Evidently those super old friends did not like you or the game enough to stay.

If you really enjoy the game personally, there will be new friends just waiting to be made. :D

Maybe if you're lucky, they will enjoy the game too.

I took their accounts and tri-box'd. Then I got bored and quit. I stopped enjoying the game, but if you still enjoy it.....Those other guys already nailed it.

Again my brother left after a brief return and I have seen many ppl come and go ( some are still friends as there is life beyond online gaming and we still keep in touch) and currently I am a "lone gun" a solo player but still interact with other cool ppl and players ing but I am far from quitting. I do enjoy the game and will for some time to come and you will find others that will too. Be it for a brief time or beyond ... enjoy yourself.

Play until Diablo III and then slang your account and gil for whatever you can!

Look at Austar's and Baconchip's avatars until you either make new friends or until your eyes start to bleed.

I got nothing, their avatars are just...

Just ask Tobba ! XD

I think you should make new friends. That being said one way you could go about it is joining some shout groups. My LS does some VW pickup groups, during our off-event hours, with with maybe half the alliance being LS and getting people from Jeuno quite often. A lot of times people have approached us because they liked how we operated. I've actually had a lot of people ask to join us. Many times they're in a situation similar to yours. While I can't accept them all my ls roster got a lot healthier by meeting people that we enjoyed playing with.

tl;dr Join stuff, talk to people. Friends are everywhere.

Hey Paulu! I miss you guys ; ;
But yeah, don't stop looking for opportunities to do things and meet people. Cool people are everywhere, you just gotta seek them out.
Unfortunately Skyrim and Skyward Sword took my livelihood away from FFXI. Might come back at some point >.>

Tobba might know

transfer servers. 25$ isnt too much to pay for new friends.

It may sound like a cliche, but you ain't seen what I've seen. Not even 40 months playing? My friend's list is filled with people that I know will never return. I keep them there more as a tribute to them and for memory sake than anything else. But yeah, on a VERY rare chance I see em logging in again. And guess what? It has happened. More than once.
On a thread the other day I posted something and for your sake, I'll reiterate: As in real life, nothing worth doing is worth doing alone. Friends and doing things with them, is what MMO's are all about. It's what keeps us going.
If you're like me, you're gonna make new friends or quit. I personally opted for the former. Well, tbh, I never really lacked for friends. Some closer than others, sure, but I've been very fortunate in that regard. If you're lacking friends atm. Sorry, but that's entirely on you.
Soloing does suck. Nothing rewarding comes from that. On the other hand, trio'ing the boss for Ugly range to hook your new friends up with +2 items can be more rewarding than the +2 items themselves.
I've been doing dynamis for 6 years. There isn't anything from dynamis that I want with the exception of some Arch drops that I coulda had months ago and passed to members. They're wants. I get more of a thrill when others get theirs than when I get mine. I schedule Arch runs strictly according to our wish list. And guess what else? I'm not on it.
Don't want to join an ls? That goes with what I said earlier about it being on you that you don't have any friends. You have to actually not only make yourself desirable as a friend, but available as well. No one talks to someone idle, pearless in port Jeuno. It's you call and your move. You just need initiative.
There's alot of people in ffxi that are just as good, some better, friends than the ones that have moved on. Trust me. Sure, there's *** too, but if you have your filters on, you'll see em coming. Anyways, good luck!

Well, I quit. But that was equal parts SE shoveling out pointless grindy *** instead of compelling content, and part Skyrim Detox aid.

It's probably more accurate in my case to say, my friends didn't quit, they just ceased to be my friends. I think that made it even harder to stay, seeing good people twisted in ways I didn't expect.

I guess depends on you personally- I quit. My friends slowly started quitting the game one by one. My last friend quit the game in January and that's when I decided it was time to stop playing.

I had a lot of great times in my years playing FFXI. I also quit because I found it hard to juggle a MMORPG, social/personal life, graduate school, and the gym.

3 years ago exping was a walk in the park compared to what it was early 2000s lol.

my flist was full if people Id met throught the years but couldnt remember whom they were upon my forced leave of absense a year and a half ago. People leave but you always find yourself congealing with new people and make new friends.


however I know valefore and its kujata refugees crumbled at the foundations when I stopped logging in ;)

Well I still have friends who play, but I think we all log-in less than we used to.

I hope this doesn't rub people the wrong way, but without the social aspect FFXI just isn't worth playing. Yeah I know, duh it's an MMO. Still, some of them can be compelling and have fun things you can do solo even if you don't have a friend in the world. FFXI just isn't that way. You'd think SE, the kings of the single player JRPG could have done a bit better with the solo content, but I shouldn't start that discussion.

As you might can tell, once my friends are gone I won't have any reason to keep playing. That's assuming I'm not the one to go before they do.

the thing to ask yourself is: Do you still enjoy the game? If not, quit now.

Do you still want to do something in the game (such as missions or level that job)? If not, quit now.

Do you have to find a reason to log on or leave your Mog House? If yes, quit now.

If you like the game and still find it a decent way to pass your free time then by all means try to find another linkshell to hang out with; even if it is just a social.

investing in people can give you the greatest rewards.

it can be risky thought if the people that you invest in doesn't think the same.


many times ive been saying ooh that new guy seems nice and could fit could in our little group of friends. you spend time to give them their abyssea win and atma's spend time to get hem seals done so they are becoming geared at least decent for event. and then they run out on their own.
i enjoy much rather getting a frined an emp weapon done, that you talk to regulary, than just another ls mate on some list, or even worse some stranger in a shout.

I rarely ever made real in-game friends. I started FFXI with my brother and another RL friend, eventually my wife joined in, and most of our activities in game revolved around helping each other.

Folks in linkshells were cool and all, I just kept them at a distance, and prioritized my RL friends over them. Our play schedules changed, and we played together less and less, but I still kept in-game friends at a distance. Maybe I was being a jerk.

So, eventually, my RL friends stopped playing, and so did I. I guess if you can't find anyone new to be friends with, and don't like soloing and random pick up groups, then maybe it's time to give FFXI a break?

Your friends will be back... nobody truly leaves ffxi. They all come back in the end.....


"Just when I thought I was out, they pull me back in"