That is a tough question, because I believe that at base level, it is physical attraction what generate and keeps a couple relationship, only later transforming in a familiar relationship, where you can ignore physical aspects (stopping to see someone as a man/woman, but as a husband/wife instead).
Idk, if the *** part doesnt evolve in a unhealthy relationship, like verbal/psychological violence, I would favor someone I feel very physically attracted to.
But if it is garanteed this relationship will become something that hurts me, in mid-long term, I would favor anything else really. Be an unattractive wife or even being alone.
If i have to pick one without knowing the outcome, i would pick the hot woman anyway. Because if the future isn’t garanteed, at least secure the present.
SO, what would you feel easier for you to accept:
That you live in a computational simulation world, and every thing, every person you knew during life arent more than NPCs and scenarios generated by an AI
OR
That you live in a purgatory, you are already dead, everyone else is also dead but none knows that truth, and it is forever trapped to painful scenarios that mimicks real life
?