My response was not to flame you. It was to point out that there are reasons as to why server transfer or mergers are not being done right now. Actually, there are better reasons for them not being done than the problem you face right now.
If SE is not merging servers or allowing transfers, why do you think that is? They are not making money... all of these servers are not free and are not cheap to keep up. Maybe it's because they have faith in their future vision for FFXIV and are hoping players will join or come back. Plus, there will be the PS3 market. It would cost more man power and money to merge servers only to make new ones later to accommodate a rush of new players. Also, if you have an influx of new players, especially when the PS3 version is available, and these players all pick a new server... you're going to have an underdeveloped community. Sure, starting fresh for a bunch of people may sound nice at first, but later down the road it's going to be more of a burden. You need the already established players there to bring the user friendly environment to them by having an already established market and players looking for new friends that can help when they are stuck in their progression.
Finally, there is a lot of hypocrisy surrounding the direction of this thread and your direction on the official forums. On that other thread you are doing the exact same thing you're complaining about in this thread. Making irrational personal attacks toward people on your own server and just plain not seeing the other side of things.
No one is saying that you cannot have server mergers or transfers eventually, but dude. This game needs to be ready for pay to play, the vision and redevelopment needs to be complete, and the PS3 version needs to be finished and in stores before they can *** server merges and transfers. Doing it right now would be backwards.