Bismarck.Josiahfk said:
»if you worry about hurting her it could mean you aren't ready for a serious relationship; does it feel like an excuse you tell yourself or more like having trust issues with yourself/others?
Personally I'd probably be drawn to the girl already dating a guy but that's involuntary moreso I think. I.e. genetics of "the challenge; steal her away and win the competition" or "go for the girl that some guy already has proven she's a catch, better chance of a good mate" etc lol
I don't trust myself, because I'm not 100% sure of what I want. I haven't been for a looong time. But I won't figure out what I want unless I try
something, either.
And, sadly, the potential unavailability (I didn't know whether or not she had a boyfriend until today) was part of the initial draw to the other girl. But, I say, "Screw that!" to that. Because 1.) I've had girls do that to me ("Well, I already know
you're interested... So I'll see if I can't try for someone harder to get first.") and it just sucks, so I refuse to let myself be like that. And 2.) I've learned from experience that if a girl will leave their guy for you... They'll just as soon leave you for another guy.
Another part is simply age difference. I'm closer in age to the unavailable girl. I see it as meaning she's
probably got more life experience.
I can't really say any of it has to do with "type" though... I've dated everything from band geek, to gamer, to artsy, and my son's mom had been a cheerleader.