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Theory of cyclical parenting

This starts often with a strong emotion regarding parenting but I have seen components of it begin even from a lack thereof.

A parent/guardian raises their child in a manner they deem fit. Rules and behavior are defined and habits are created. Eventually the child begins to feel strongly about the parents processes and the actual parenting, positive or negative alike and being human the negative resonant effectively.

The child grows up and the behavior and parenting methods of the father/mother/guardian are remembered and dwelled upon. The now adult becomes a parent and in turn mistakes in methods behavior and morals of their parent are avoided and effort is put in to be a better parent, to help their child gain what they lacked and to try and create any happiness they had lacked as a child in their eyes.

So in turn the second generation has now created a near opposite environment of the first generation in many ways, attempting to balance the parenting process. positive and negative behaviors/morals and processes are remembered by the third generation and in turn when they grow up and have children of their own, the whole process is repeated, trying to overcompensate and overbalance the mistakes of the previous generation in the meantime resulting in behavior similar to the first generation. Thus the cycle repeats endlessly.

The only way to avoid and remove from this cycle is to be aware of it and prevent these overcompensations and mistakes from repeating.


For the other side of it with no parents present the creation is simlier. One grows up without a parent and thus smothers their kids to overcompensate and prevent their child from feeling the pain they did. In turn the next generation tries to overcompensate again, recreating the first generations situation in essence by trying not to smother their children. (in this case and for this one example)