Feel free to elaborate.
As I said before, it's subjective, but not unfounded that the former happens frequently among women and over affectionate males.
I have issues explaining this because it's not really concrete. Just as I have a hard time explaining why 'nice guys' *** suck.
It's completely about
how they go about being 'overly affectionate'. Are they doing it to try and get laid? Are they doing it because they're scared their woman's going to run off with another man? There's a bunch of things, I can't really explain this very well.
You also have to realize that people need space, and they don't want to be sucking face 24/7, they have other stuff they need to do.
I'm back from work, but if you don't mind I wanted to further talk about the whole alpha/beta male thing in further detail.
Niniann, I completely understand the detriment of a guy that is downright smothering with their seemingly misguided affection hazed with possible ulterior motives or shrouded in numerous insecurities.
The thing is guys can be equally insecure as women are, as social norms stigmatize them with. If misguided benevolence in terms of unknowing insecurities and motives are the result of that, then I can't put too much fault on them compared to the alternative.
Putting your actions and words on an outside perspective is difficult enough, let alone from the opposite sex.
The problem I have with alpha males is though they have the charisma, confidence, and alluring personalities, the fact that they know exactly what they're doing and why yet still delivering the *** complex is what bothers me most.
You can have a guy that isn't sure about himself or his desires or where he fits in with another girl, or you can have guys that are simply aiming to add another notch to their belt. The fact that so many women willingly fall into such obvious traps bothers me a lot.
Would be better to go with a person that makes you happy and learn about them as you go than willingly put yourself through a personality struggle and hope there's some good therein to salvage.
Anyways, that's just my two cents on the whole deal. Perhaps I'm biased, because it is a bit obvious which of the two I fall into more so than the other.