the race change was very cool
I read your other post, and I very much came to the opinion that you blamed the race you picked on many of the problems you had with how people treated you. When you could change that, your excuses fell apart and now you're sperging out and blaming the game. I knew that when you got the option to change, you would do it and quit.
The problem really is how you think about the game, XI hasn't changed much at all (to a fault you could say, in that they try super hard to keep it as close to the original design as they can).
Most of the stuff you talk positively about are crap, PVP sucks and nobody does it (mainly cause FF players don't like PVP but also cause of how hard they make signing up and waiting for it etc) and HNM is stupid content that is just botted.
There are many things that they could do in order to make the game better, but ultimately it is what it is and XI is a game made for a specific kind of player and it caters to them. It's in effect a somewhat underfunded and better looking version of OSRS, it's just made to grind stuff out in a living world.
I think a major problem is you're just not able to clear the harder content, and it's upsetting to you. Well you don't have to do the harder content. You can do lower tier content and just have the game as a relaxing thing you do in your free time, or play to the level you're comfortable. Over half the people playing XI are solo, they aren't doing all the hardest content solo (btw many people who multibox don't do the hardest content either, this is a illusion created by watching too much Eijin or Velner). This is a mindset like thinking you have to play a single player game on the hardest difficulty, or it's not worth playing. Most people dont have this minset and pick normal or whatever.