Naturally a friend is anyone who you can establish a healthy relationship with. And by healthy relationships, its a balanced relationship where the other is on same lv as you so neither side depend on other, or expect something in return.
I agree with the first part but not the second. A "balanced" relationship to me means
both sides offer something in return. Even if that value is emotional.
However, if only one side is offering an emotional value, but the other side isn't offering the same, then the relationship will broke, because it's not balanced.
I agree that if you set your expectations low then it's easier to maintain it since it's easier to be satisfied this way. But setting the expectations low isn't the same as zero.
It's super unrealistic to offer unlimited emotional value and expect
nothing all the time. It doesn't work that way, and that's how relationship ended up being unbalanced.
And this pretty much sum up my definition of unhealthy / unbalanced relationship
That sums up with the nature of human relationship at all. Why would you want to be friend with someone that wouldn't return at least
some emotional value? The world is large, people's time is limited. Why would anyone waste time on someone who can't offer at least
some value when they can spend their time on someone else instead?
You are speaking from a totally unrealistic pov Panta.