Franklin said that the more time, effort, or work you put towards a person, the more you're personally investing in them and the more you want it to work out; however if you go too much out of your way to do things for them and investing in them, you're cutting out their chances to invest as well into the relationship, thus actually having a slightly negative effect.
Just found this, thought it was interesting.
Plus you're actually planting seeds of enabling unhealthy reliance in them on yourself. One of the reasons I have to limit how much I help people all the time. It's far more dangerous to help someone too much than not enough.
Part of why I love being alone so much; Empty rooms finally mean there is no one left to take care of.
Being away from my wife always has the same pattern for me. It's novel for a bit, I enjoy the quiet time to myself to a degree, but it rapidly gets lonely awful quick. She has to go to conferences and trade shows for scientists sometimes for work and it's normally a 3-4 day thing. I'm normally all, "Woohoo, bachelor life for a few days!" at the beginning.
But by the time the last day rolls around I'm more of the, "this isn't that fun" mindset.
Funny thing is, I have sort of the opposite reaction with other people, just on a much faster time table.
Most of the time after an hour or two of socializing I'm ready to be rid of everyone for another two months. Alcohol allows the experience to prolong to a certain degree, but only to a point.
I'm just not a crowd person. Neither is my wife. That's why we didn't have an actual wedding or reception; being the center of attention like that for an entire day would be brutal. Paying all that money to do it would be
hell.