Artemicion said:
Odin.Liela said:
Artemicion said:
This is kind of out of a blue but a weird dream reminded me of it.
Anyone else miss naive infatuation based puppy love like when we were teenagers? Something about getting carried and not caring was blissful. Now it's all about defending yourself and taking chances or risks with projected outcome of loss, like it was making some sort of business investment. That to me just feels sad.
Well, I haven't run into the defending myself or business investment feelings. But I do kinda miss the butterfly days of romance. Too bad we can't just be kids forever. :/ Then again, I wouldn't trade in the comfortable love, assurance, companionship, and security of marriage, either.
This of course is granted you're still single.
Happiness within marriage is subjective per individual I'd imagine.
But dating seems more and more like a risk assessment than something you just go with flow with. Definitely lacks a sense of romance once you're jaded, and the whole social networking thing destroying our sense of involvement doesn't help either.
Since I haven't dated in over 6 years, I can't fully understand, and I may be wrong. But if jadedness is part of the problem, let go of bitterness from the past and try to trust your dates. If social networking contributes to the problem, make a deal with your date to spend more time together in-person than you spend together online.
But I don't know if those would really help. I mean, if you're jaded you can't just wave a magic wand and be all better and trust girls again, and half the problem I have with social networks is that nothing is private between couples for many people. It makes it hard to get intimate with a girl or trust her if every time you kiss, she posts that you kissed her. It's not just about spending more time online than together, it's also about all her friends knowing everything the two of you do. Immediately. Unless you can find a girl who can keep her mouth shut on private things online. :-(