Odin.Liela said:
Cut him loose, but if he wants to come back, let him. Under the condition that he doesn't use you anymore. If he never comes back, that is not your fault. You've done more than most very good friends would do.
Yeah, but that's why I have brought the problem upon you all now, I HAVE taken him back already, and he still does the same thing.. If I really don't trust him, is that grounds to throw out the clause of taking him back with his word he won't use me anymore? I can't trust him.. Honestly, I'm the only long-term good friend he has as well.. (His next closest friends are all from WoW, who don't even share our same state) he's going to come back at some point.. So at what point do I refer to past experience over what he promises?
I just really don't want to over-react and throw out a good friendship just based on how I feel at the moment, so I need some advice... Sadly, I don't really have any friends I can talk to about this.. I have people I could ask, but few, if any, could be objective and look at the bigger picture. My wife would tell me whatever would make me happy, my brother would say don't tolerate ***from no one, the only friend I have had longer than MB would just look at me like I'm a dumbass (they have a 'history') my grandparents (for all practical purposes, my parents) would say something that sounded like 'blah blah blah, god blah blah'.. etc etc <_< I hate having no one to turn to but AH for stuff like this, because then I see myself as foreveralone.jpg, but it's really the only place I can go to for objective feedback into such a situation.
I can pretty much guarantee that if I DO accept him back, I'll find myself in the same situation that led me to this one within 3 months.. The only real issue is that me and him have been friends for so long, and minus the last few years of this repetition, he's always been a very good friend, I don't want to look back and think I just went over-reacted.. I want to be able to think I handled the situation objectively.
Bleh, got all long again..
Unless someone can provide good reason to give him yet another chance, I'm just going to cut him free..