Shiva.Bailiegrace said:
»Tl;DR:
If I was with my husband right now I would have to decide whether I wanted to punch him in the penis or hug him.
He is in the Navy and miserable in his current rate. He has passed up becoming a 1st class 3 times now because he 'isn't staying in/isn't a lifer'. He has tried and exhausted all available avenues to change rate or at least go from subs to surface. No dice.
He made the commitment to get out and has gone through TAPS.
He called me tonight and told me that he is considering shore duty or a rate change because this is the first/last/only opportunity he would get to do so. For those not familiar with the military, each job is given three ratings that break down to over staffed, perfect, understaffed. If your rate is undermanned, you can never change jobs. If it has a perfect amount it's more than likely that you won't get to change jobs. His job has always been and more than likely always will be undermanned.
The shore duty would be with the program he is currently with possibly. Meaning he could keep his TS clearance & finish his degree.
The rate change would go in line with his degree, experience wise
and give a $1000 per month tax free bonus per month for the duration he signs up and half is up front.
I wish I was there to be excited for him because he has been waiting for an opportunity like this for about three years now.
The other part of me wants to punch him in the baby maker because I always have told him it is his choice but FFS, make one. Stay in or get out but stop flopping back and forth x.x
Getting in, staying in, getting out, trying to go back after are all tough choices to make. I think about it sometimes, I miss the work I was doing and some of the friends I had, but I do not miss the chain of command. Better that he would take the time and weigh the options than to make a decision that could be harder to switch back once he does so.
Is he a nuke or something?