1. Even though you were pretty much the awesomest non-gamer girlfriend ever and upgraded your pc, bought the game, and learned to play so you could spend more time with your boyfriend, he's still going to dump you, quit the game, use you to keep in touch with his game friends, then marry one of those friends 2 years later leaving you addicted to a never-ending game your friends and family don't understand and constantly nag you to quit. Dump him, remain a non-gamer.
2. Since you clearly ignored my first suggestion, don't waste time on that 2nd character. You can't play 2 at once if they're on the same account, and all it amounts to is twice as much time questing and doing missions, not to mention getting double the amount of gear.
3. Stop passing things you really want because you feel like you already get enough drops and someone else deserves some. STOP IT. You work hard, level jobs for the good of the linkshell, always come prepared, and never complain about being stuck on the same job for months on end. They will all quit. Every last one. You will be left 3 years later, bitter and still wanting basic crap that nobody farms anymore.